Stepmother Attire

MuppetFan

I agree with apologizing to her and telling her to wear what she feels most comfortable in. I'd feel like a 3rd rate citizen with all those requirements, especially the one where she can't wear the colors of your FMIL and Mother...

My mother is intentionally ordering one of my wedding colors. I'm not sure why this could be upsetting.

AddieCake

eucala08 said:

I disagree with people on here. You can ask for them to wear certain colors. My mom and FMIL asked what colors to wear. I told them. My mom fussed some, but she's walking in the wedding for the sand ceremony. I don't want her clashing.

I don't think people should wear black to a July wedding. It's not a funeral.

I was a bridesmaid in a July wedding in black. The bride herself was in a black and white dress. Nobody thought funeral. 

MuppetFan

AddieL73 said:

eucala08 said:

I disagree with people on here. You can ask for them to wear certain colors. My mom and FMIL asked what colors to wear. I told them. My mom fussed some, but she's walking in the wedding for the sand ceremony. I don't want her clashing.

I don't think people should wear black to a July wedding. It's not a funeral.

I was a bridesmaid in a July wedding in black. The bride herself was in a black and white dress. Nobody thought funeral. 

My maids are in black

AddieCake

MuppetFan said:

My maids are in black

I'm appalled. Your wedding will be a freakshow. 

Maggie0829

I don't get the notion that when people wear black to a wedding it makes it seem like a funeral.  I mean, it isn't like there is a casket with a dead person at the alter.  Also, I have been to many funerals where people wore bright, happy colors because they felt the need to celebrate the life lost, not mourn.  But never once did I think that I was at a wedding instead of a funeral because of the color scheme of guests clothing.  There was still the dead guy in the casket in full view, not a bride in a big white wedding dress.  So really there should be no confusion whatsoever no matter the color people wear.

MuppetFan

AddieL73 said:

MuppetFan said:

My maids are in black

I'm appalled. Your wedding will be a freakshow. 

Well, obviously Maggie, if black is worn to the wedding, it might look like this (actual bride from actual wedding):

Maggie0829

AddieL73 said:

MuppetFan said:

My maids are in black

I'm appalled. Your wedding will be a freakshow. 

Well, obviously Maggie, if black is worn to the wedding, it might look like this (actual bride from actual wedding):

What the what?!?!  Um, that is...wow...no words.

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WHERE DID YOU GET THAT PICTURE OF ME.

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This is one of those instances where I want to see who "loved" my post! DAMN YOU NEW KNOT.

Peledreamsofrain

I did LMc!

Salsera29

My bridesmaids are wearing purple, my mom is wearing purple, and my FMIL is wearing purple. I'm pretty confident everyone is going to look beautiful in pictures and nobody will confuse my mom for a BM. 

Sierra524

My mom, step mom and grandma are all wearing champagne. FMIL is wearing a skirt and top she got at Grasshopper...it's a hippie store. She loves it and is comfortable in it. Isn't that the only thing that matters?

Peledreamsofrain

StageManager14 said:

@peledreamsofrain, I just want to brag that I was the love that turned your post gold.

Teehee, you say the sweetest things, Stage.

jcrmc

Who cares if the dress is too short, has a slit up the thigh and is dated? Are you wearing it? Nope! It wont reflect on you - it will on her and her alone.

I agree with PPs - you dont have the right to dictate what she wears. If she asked for colours, seemingly so she didnt duplicate, but still wears one of them, who cares? Only thing I would be worried about in the least is if she wore the *exact same* outfit as someone else.

Distasteful Kitten

Maggie0829 said:

I don't get the notion that when people wear black to a wedding it makes it seem like a funeral.  I mean, it isn't like there is a casket with a dead person at the alter.  Also, I have been to many funerals where people wore bright, happy colors because they felt the need to celebrate the life lost, not mourn.  But never once did I think that I was at a wedding instead of a funeral because of the color scheme of guests clothing.  There was still the dead guy in the casket in full view, not a bride in a big white wedding dress.  So really there should be no confusion whatsoever no matter the color people wear.

I agree, I wear black a lot to nicer social functions because it is easy to dress up or down as needed, it's timeless, and it's slimming!