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Wrong Veil

So I bought my wedding veil after purchasing my dress from a different shop (one within walking distance of my work) to discover at my fitting last week that my veil does not go with my dress... the veil is ivory and the dress is pure white (whoops!!) - I've tried posting it on Facebook and craigslist as for sale with no luck!!  I'm asking $80 - its brand new (already took the tags off) and absolutely beautiful, so if anyone knows of somewhere good to post it to sell it or wants to buy it, or has a friend, let me know, I'm just trying to recoup some costs because as you all know... weddings are expensive!!
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Just honest feedback...the pictures you took are pretty bad. Especially if you're trying to get $80 for it.

    Can you or can you get someone to model it for you in better lighting ?

  • I could probably get my fiancé to help me... I honestly didn't think the pics were that bad, and $80 is not that much for a brand new fingertip length two tier veil with beading... I paid $180 for it and another $180 for the replacement.

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    I could probably get my fiancé to help me... I honestly didn't think the pics were that bad, and $80 is not that much for a brand new fingertip length two tier veil with beading... I paid $180 for it and another $180 for the replacement.

    I got a brand new cathedral length veil with lace trim for $40. You overpaid. Again, just being honest.
  • Do you mind me asking where you got your veil? 

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    You can find veils much cheaper than $180 online at ValuVeil, Amazon, Ebay, or Etsy.

    If all of those are not options for you, stores like David's Bridal have several choices under $100.

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    itzMS said:

    You can find veils much cheaper than $180 online at ValuVeil, Amazon, Ebay, or Etsy.

    If all of those are not options for you, stores like David's Bridal have several choices under $100.

    I bought both of my veils from David's bridal... and both were of the very few they had in the length with beading for under $200 - Just being honest, I personally would never buy a veil from ValuVeil, Amazon or EBay.... it is an important part to me and I would not trust the quality or craftsmanship from one of those sites... Etsy, maybe but most likely not.  The veils from legitimate bridal boutiques are expensive because they're made by companies/designers who have delivered a quality product time and time again... I looked on EBay for veils as I'm an avid EBay user, however chose to not risk it...
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    itzMS said:

    You can find veils much cheaper than $180 online at ValuVeil, Amazon, Ebay, or Etsy.

    If all of those are not options for you, stores like David's Bridal have several choices under $100.

    I bought both of my veils from David's bridal... and both were of the very few they had in the length with beading for under $200 - Just being honest, I personally would never buy a veil from ValuVeil, Amazon or EBay.... it is an important part to me and I would not trust the quality or craftsmanship from one of those sites... Etsy, maybe but most likely not.  The veils from legitimate bridal boutiques are expensive because they're made by companies/designers who have delivered a quality product time and time again... I looked on EBay for veils as I'm an avid EBay user, however chose to not risk it...

    But you'll charge your guests for drinks at your wedding...

  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    there are hundreds of brides who have posted here who have had great luck with valueveil and whitedovebridal.  I got a beautiful birdcage veil with scattered pearls from whitedovebridal for about $25.00.  I agree with @itzMs, you overpaid and your pictures are horrible.
  • I made my veil for $8.  My friend bought a veil which looked exactly like the one I made for myself for $120.  I bet if I put pictures of us in our veils next to each other and didn't tell you who was who there would be no way you would be able to guess which was DIY'd and which was bought from the bridal salon.  And no I am not tooting my own amazing DIY-self, I am just saying that the fabric was exactly the same and so was the style of the veil.  The only difference was that mine wasn't marked up significantly because of brand and labor.

    OP, check out the sites @itzMS suggested.  Veils are way overpriced for what they are and can be found a lot cheaper but with the same quality.  Also, your pictures really aren't that great.  I suggest you model the veil and make sure to wear a black shirt so as to really show off the veil and detail.


  • You realize most veils are pretty much just pieces of tulle at the end of the day, right? The profit margins on veils has to be outrageous for bridal salons. 

    I'm amazed that you would tell us we're all stuck up for wanting an open bar at our weddings, proudly selling alcohol in your own back yard at your reception, but declaring that you must have a $150+ veil. 

    @Maggie0829, I just creeped on your pictures. You did a fantastic job with your veil! I'm attempting to sew a lace-trimmed one for myself. We'll see how it goes. 
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  • I agree that your pictures are terrible and probably why people aren't interested. Also, I absolutely do think your overpaid considering I got my brand new $275 veil for $22.50 by watching for when my bridal salon was having a sale.

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  • PDKH said:
    You realize most veils are pretty much just pieces of tulle at the end of the day, right? The profit margins on veils has to be outrageous for bridal salons. 

    I'm amazed that you would tell us we're all stuck up for wanting an open bar at our weddings, proudly selling alcohol in your own back yard at your reception, but declaring that you must have a $150+ veil. 

    @Maggie0829, I just creeped on your pictures. You did a fantastic job with your veil! I'm attempting to sew a lace-trimmed one for myself. We'll see how it goes. 

    As an FYI my mother bought my veil for me as her contribution to my wedding... I also never said I have to have a $150 or more veil, I merely stated that it wasn't something I was willing to leave to chance by ordering it from a website that is designed for cheap things and waiting for it to get here and quite possibly be horrendous... I've seen it happen and don't want to go through that.  Also, regarding the open bar comment... quite possibly don't tell people that they are rude and lack etiquette for not having an open bar and choosing to legally sell the alcohol if you don't want that person to make comments back. 
  • PDKH said:
    You realize most veils are pretty much just pieces of tulle at the end of the day, right? The profit margins on veils has to be outrageous for bridal salons. 

    I'm amazed that you would tell us we're all stuck up for wanting an open bar at our weddings, proudly selling alcohol in your own back yard at your reception, but declaring that you must have a $150+ veil. 

    @Maggie0829, I just creeped on your pictures. You did a fantastic job with your veil! I'm attempting to sew a lace-trimmed one for myself. We'll see how it goes. 

    As an FYI my mother bought my veil for me as her contribution to my wedding... I also never said I have to have a $150 or more veil, I merely stated that it wasn't something I was willing to leave to chance by ordering it from a website that is designed for cheap things and waiting for it to get here and quite possibly be horrendous... I've seen it happen and don't want to go through that.  Also, regarding the open bar comment... quite possibly don't tell people that they are rude and lack etiquette for not having an open bar and choosing to legally sell the alcohol if you don't want that person to make comments back. 
    That's why valuveil.com and whitedove.com are good options. They are reputable retailers who wont gouge you for a simple veil. You could even ask a seamstress to custom make one for you for less than $150. 

    No one ever said people are rude for not having an open bar. Dry weddings or limited bar weddings are perfectly appropriate. My sister had a dry wedding. What is rude is SELLING alcohol to guests you're supposed to be hosting. You just said you're going to legally sell alcohol - at your wedding. 

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  • That's why valuveil.com and whitedove.com are good options. They are reputable retailers who wont gouge you for a simple veil. You could even ask a seamstress to custom make one for you for less than $150. 

    No one ever said people are rude for not having an open bar. Dry weddings or limited bar weddings are perfectly appropriate. My sister had a dry wedding. What is rude is SELLING alcohol to guests you're supposed to be hosting. You just said you're going to legally sell alcohol - at your wedding. 

    @PDKH - I did go to a seamstress - and it wasn't cheaper... as for the websites... again I'm not entrusting an important part to online, I've played that game many times and only about maybe 50% did I get what I thought I was going to. Also I looked over valuveil.com - they've been on facebook since 2009 and don't even have 100 likes... they only have 4 recommendations on google and on their facebook only one person has taken the time to say they loved their veil... those aren't good signs in my opinion.

     

    2. so essentially you have to pay for everything or have nothing... yeah sorry but that's asinine in my opinion.  You along with others on this site may/do/can disagree, I'm not going to change my set-up.  I've done my due diligence to ensure that the owner of the property we will be on is covered legally and figured out the costs for alcohol and a bartender so that we can sell at cost... none of the people invited expect us to pay for it and if someone did, they could feel free to not come celebrate with is... because to be honest, if your in a tiff that you had to buy your drink, you in my opinion have a pole crammed somewhere and probably aren't any fun.  Where I live, open bar is for the rich, which I'm not, and cash bar is the normal. 

  • That's why valuveil.com and whitedove.com are good options. They are reputable retailers who wont gouge you for a simple veil. You could even ask a seamstress to custom make one for you for less than $150. 

    No one ever said people are rude for not having an open bar. Dry weddings or limited bar weddings are perfectly appropriate. My sister had a dry wedding. What is rude is SELLING alcohol to guests you're supposed to be hosting. You just said you're going to legally sell alcohol - at your wedding. 

    @PDKH - I did go to a seamstress - and it wasn't cheaper... as for the websites... again I'm not entrusting an important part to online, I've played that game many times and only about maybe 50% did I get what I thought I was going to. Also I looked over valuveil.com - they've been on facebook since 2009 and don't even have 100 likes... they only have 4 recommendations on google and on their facebook only one person has taken the time to say they loved their veil... those aren't good signs in my opinion.

     

    2. so essentially you have to pay for everything or have nothing... yeah sorry but that's asinine in my opinion.  You along with others on this site may/do/can disagree, I'm not going to change my set-up.  I've done my due diligence to ensure that the owner of the property we will be on is covered legally and figured out the costs for alcohol and a bartender so that we can sell at cost... none of the people invited expect us to pay for it and if someone did, they could feel free to not come celebrate with is... because to be honest, if your in a tiff that you had to buy your drink, you in my opinion have a pole crammed somewhere and probably aren't any fun.  Where I live, open bar is for the rich, which I'm not, and cash bar is the normal. 

    Then do as a PP mentioned and wait for a big sale. Or go to Michaels or JoAnne's, find a pattern you like, and practice sewing one yourself. Basic tulle is a few dollars/yard. 

    And uh YES you have to pay for everything at YOUR wedding. Are you kidding me? It's your wedding, you pay for it. Do you require people to buy you home furnishings before they come stay as a house guest? When you graduated, did you require the people who came to watch pay part of your tuition? You pay for the things you want in life.  

    You seem to think I'm spending tens of thousands of dollars on my wedding - I'm not, I just prioritized my wedding budget. For $180, you could have bought a couple of cheap kegs instead of wasting the money on a veil you wont use.  
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    Then do as a PP mentioned and wait for a big sale. Or go to Michaels or JoAnne's, find a pattern you like, and practice sewing one yourself. Basic tulle is a few dollars/yard. 

    And uh YES you have to pay for everything at YOUR wedding. Are you kidding me? It's your wedding, you pay for it. Do you require people to buy you home furnishings before they come stay as a house guest? When you graduated, did you require the people who came to watch pay part of your tuition? You pay for the things you want in life.  

    You seem to think I'm spending tens of thousands of dollars on my wedding - I'm not, I just prioritized my wedding budget. For $180, you could have bought a couple of cheap kegs instead of wasting the money on a veil you wont use.  

    1. Tried... not going to work and I'm on limited time... I do/did not have years to practice... I've literally had months and still have to work, go to school, participate in things I've volunteered for, clean, cook, etc.

    2. Yeah thanks... I know you pay for things you want, I've always paid for everything I've ever had since I became old enough to get a legitimate job (13)... again you compare apples and oranges... but when we did my graduation party for HS it was BYOB... I can guarantee you with 10000% certainty that if we did not have alcohol at all, people would be far more upset than if they had to pay cheap money for a drink. 

    3. FYI - Cheapest keg at the liquor store, 120+ deposit.  I know because we've bought them before and brought to parties with us... so lets see two of those is min. $240... and again... my mother bought me my veil since as her gift to her daughter as she cannot chip any money in to buy anything else a mother usually would. 

     

    4. Unless you live in my area you have no idea what our costs are... from the sounds of it... you live in an area with lower COL... that doesn't mean you have better etiquette than me, or that you're better at budgeting.... it merely means the money you have can go further than the money I have... in addition you may have had far longer to prepare... and might have a smaller immediate family than we do so therefore can keep the guest list small... for you or any other person to judge me because where I'm from a cash bar is not bad etiquette... tells me you are stuck up.  Look down on me all you want... my family and friends don't/won't/will never.

    Feel free to continue responding but I'm done... clearly I'm cut from a different cloth and shouldn't have bothered asking a question that only got answered with "you spent to much" "your pictures suck" and "your a POS for selling alcohol" (which mind you had nothing to do with this thread....)

  • @Meghan1428 I am not going to comment on the selling the alcohol to your guests thing because it doesn't seem to matter what anyone says because you are going to do it no matter what.  And I live and had my wedding in a high COL state/city and still managed to pay for everything so that argument is rather moot in my opinion

    As for the time constraints for making a veil.  I made my veil in about 45 minutes.  And that was with taking a 15 minute break between drawing a pattern, cutting out the fabric, and sewing the tulle to the metal hair comb.  And I too work, deal with a household, have friends and a life but still found the time.

    Apparently you don't like blunt honesty but your pictures are not that great.  When you are trying to sell something you need to have decent pictures.  It is like looking at houses online.  The one's with the nice pictures tend to get looked at and bought first.  Same goes with selling anything online, you know, first impressions.  We as posters are just trying to help you sell your veil.  But apparently you know all.


  • @meghan1428 really, we are trying to help you. You could probably sell your veil fairly easily if your pictures were a better quality. I can barely see the details of the veil.

    Look, we are paying for everything ourselves. We don't have a large budget, so I try to find deals where I can. Which is why I waited for a sale to purchase my veil and got a crazy good deal. It's why I waited to buy my jewelry until I had a coupon that essentially gave me my earrings for free. You are really only hurting yourself by being combative and incredibly unfriendly in your responses here.

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  • @Meghan1428 I am not going to comment on the selling the alcohol to your guests thing because it doesn't seem to matter what anyone says because you are going to do it no matter what.  And I live and had my wedding in a high COL state/city and still managed to pay for everything so that argument is rather moot in my opinion

    As for the time constraints for making a veil.  I made my veil in about 45 minutes.  And that was with taking a 15 minute break between drawing a pattern, cutting out the fabric, and sewing the tulle to the metal hair comb.  And I too work, deal with a household, have friends and a life but still found the time.

    Apparently you don't like blunt honesty but your pictures are not that great.  When you are trying to sell something you need to have decent pictures.  It is like looking at houses online.  The one's with the nice pictures tend to get looked at and bought first.  Same goes with selling anything online, you know, first impressions.  We as posters are just trying to help you sell your veil.  But apparently you know all.

    Again... your high COL area could still be less than mine... you really have no idea and no right to judge.  Like I stated previously where I live, its not frowned upon it is the normal...

    I'm willing to bet you had practiced or had prior sewing experience prior to sitting down to make your veil... I don't have the time to do that now especially considering the wedding is in mid July...

    as for the pictures... its not necessarily the fact that people stated the pictures weren't good... its the manner it was said in. There is a difference between blunt honesty/constructive criticism and being snippy.  The only person who did not come off snarky was you by suggesting I model with black to enhance the visual ability of the veil.

    I understand that pictures help sell something... I merely made the statement that I did not think they were that bad... I also wasn't planning on shipping it to anyone so its really just a quick glance... when I was looking for a home I used the pictures yes but you can make something look fabulous in a picture and in real life it can be horrendous and vice versus. The bottom line is only once in this thread was there any actualy help... 75% of comments were just plain b*tchy

  • @meghan1428 really, we are trying to help you. You could probably sell your veil fairly easily if your pictures were a better quality. I can barely see the details of the veil. Look, we are paying for everything ourselves. We don't have a large budget, so I try to find deals where I can. Which is why I waited for a sale to purchase my veil and got a crazy good deal. It's why I waited to buy my jewelry until I had a coupon that essentially gave me my earrings for free. You are really only hurting yourself by being combative and incredibly unfriendly in your responses here.
    If I come off as unfriendly its because it is my opinion that what I have received is nothing but unfriendly comments... believe it or not but messages via the internet most certainly carry a tone... and not one message I've received has had a friendly nature or the feeling of genuine want to help.... I give what I recieve
  • @Meghan1428 I am not going to comment on the selling the alcohol to your guests thing because it doesn't seem to matter what anyone says because you are going to do it no matter what.  And I live and had my wedding in a high COL state/city and still managed to pay for everything so that argument is rather moot in my opinion

    As for the time constraints for making a veil.  I made my veil in about 45 minutes.  And that was with taking a 15 minute break between drawing a pattern, cutting out the fabric, and sewing the tulle to the metal hair comb.  And I too work, deal with a household, have friends and a life but still found the time.

    Apparently you don't like blunt honesty but your pictures are not that great.  When you are trying to sell something you need to have decent pictures.  It is like looking at houses online.  The one's with the nice pictures tend to get looked at and bought first.  Same goes with selling anything online, you know, first impressions.  We as posters are just trying to help you sell your veil.  But apparently you know all.

    Again... your high COL area could still be less than mine... you really have no idea and no right to judge.  Like I stated previously where I live, its not frowned upon it is the normal...

    I'm willing to bet you had practiced or had prior sewing experience prior to sitting down to make your veil... I don't have the time to do that now especially considering the wedding is in mid July...

    as for the pictures... its not necessarily the fact that people stated the pictures weren't good... its the manner it was said in. There is a difference between blunt honesty/constructive criticism and being snippy.  The only person who did not come off snarky was you by suggesting I model with black to enhance the visual ability of the veil.

    I understand that pictures help sell something... I merely made the statement that I did not think they were that bad... I also wasn't planning on shipping it to anyone so its really just a quick glance... when I was looking for a home I used the pictures yes but you can make something look fabulous in a picture and in real life it can be horrendous and vice versus. The bottom line is only once in this thread was there any actualy help... 75% of comments were just plain b*tchy

    First bolded statement.  I live in Maryland where taxes are incredibly high and COL of living is high as well.  Trust we when I say that the COL in my area is up there with the other places that have high COL.  Hell we even have a tax on rain water run off so things are mighty expensive here.  In 21012 Maryland was ranked 8th in the top ten most expensive states to live in so I know how you feel trust me.  But living in a high COL state/area does not mean that you still shouldn't pay for everything yourself when you host an even where formal invites are given.

    As for prior sewing experience I had none.  I did a quick google search and found a short step by step instruction on how to make a simple veil and I winged it from there.  I also made my veil about a month before my wedding because I decided last minute that I wanted one and I did not know about the sites PP listed as of yet nor did I want to spend $100+ on a sample one from a bridal salon.

    I know you don't think the pictures look bad but it is good to get outsider perspectives on things.  I know that pictures can be doctored with to make things look better then they are but you cannot be paranoid about it.  And by having "real" pictures like yours does not mean that people will think of you as a more legitimate seller then someone who used good lighting and angles.

    Being blunt and honest is how many of hte posters on these boards are.  We don't sugar coat things.  I am sorry that we didn't say things in the way you wanted but posts only started to get snippy when you started to get snippy.  Before that it was all blunt honesty.


  • @Maggie0829: "I am sorry that we didn't say things in the way you wanted but posts only started to get snippy when you started to get snippy.  Before that it was all blunt honesty"

     itzMS said:

    But you'll charge your guests for drinks at your wedding...


    That's actually where it got snippy... and then even more snippy:

    "I agree with itzMs, you overpaid and your pictures are horrible."

    "I'm amazed that you would tell us we're all stuck up for wanting an open bar at our weddings, proudly selling alcohol in your own back yard at your reception, but declaring that you must have a $150+ veil."

    Again - I'm not asking for sugar coating... there is a difference between sugar coating and giving constructive criticism... telling someone their pictures are horrible but not giving them advice on how to make them better... that's just being snippy not helpful at all.  Telling someone they over paid for their veil, not helpful... Its fine if you were able to make your veil or buy it somewhere cheap... I didn't/wasn't (again it was a gift from my mother to my... I am her only daughter and since she cannot help with the wedding she purchased me that.) but telling me that isn't going to help me sell the one I already paid money for...

     

  • Actually someone telling me my pictures are horrible would be helpful advice because I would then retake my pictures in a better way.  Just because they don't give you an idea on how to take better pictures doesn't mean that it was bad advice.

    As for the price, again they were just telling you the truth.  Your Mom did overpay for that veil.  And by telling you that gave you the heads up that you shouldn't be purchasing another veil at the same price because you again would be over paying for it.


  • Its too late - as I stated in my second comment the second veil has already been purchased so its kind of invalid telling me I paid too much when I already purchased it...

    As for the pictures... I wouldn't have used the pictures I took the first time If I thought they were that bad... so telling me their bad but not giving an idea of what would make them better is not giving me any advice of how to correct it... its merely making a statement that provides no substance

  • Really, OP?

    You came on here to ask if we could help you find a place to sell this veil. You're not going to sell it easily with the horrible photos or price tag you have on it. Being alerted to these details should be helpful and the advice from there should be intuitive. However, you should take better photos and lower the price.


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  • @meghan1428 really, we are trying to help you. You could probably sell your veil fairly easily if your pictures were a better quality. I can barely see the details of the veil.

    Look, we are paying for everything ourselves. We don't have a large budget, so I try to find deals where I can. Which is why I waited for a sale to purchase my veil and got a crazy good deal. It's why I waited to buy my jewelry until I had a coupon that essentially gave me my earrings for free. You are really only hurting yourself by being combative and incredibly unfriendly in your responses here.

    If I come off as unfriendly its because it is my opinion that what I have received is nothing but unfriendly comments... believe it or not but messages via the internet most certainly carry a tone... and not one message I've received has had a friendly nature or the feeling of genuine want to help.... I give what I recieve


    Who wasn't wanting to "genuinely" help you?

    Really, OP, I think you are just unhappy that you didn't get people feeling pity for you.

    Like I said before, fix your pictures and I bet your veil will sell.

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  • You might want to remove your hairs from the veils when you retake those photos too. It will look newer.
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  • Ok lady you have gotten on my nerves. I live near Seattle WA which has one of the high COL's we have the highest minimum wage in the country and that's not even a LIVING wage here. I am saving up my money and hosting my guests properly! 
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