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Wedding Invitations & Paper

Invited without my fiance?

Not sure what the right thing to do is here - a mutual friend of mine and my fiance (the groom is an ex-coworker of my fiance`, and the bride and I became friends when they started dating)  mailed me a wedding invitation addressed to me with just a yes or no check mark. I know she knows that we're engaged (she called me to congratulate), and there's no reason we can think of that she would purposely not invite my fiance. 

The thing is, my fiance` has not had a permanent residence in the last two years (messy situation with the house he owned with his parents being foreclosed). It's common knowledge amongst our friends that he's been staying with me, but we have no way of knowing if she mailed him his own invite to his last known address and just didn't think to address one to both of us (100% understandable).

Half of me thinks I should just tuck or write a little note in the RSVP card (but then that seems exactly like crazy people who decide to bring their own plus ones). Half of me thinks I should call the bride (or my fiance` should call the groom) and ask, but again...that just seems rude to say "Hey I was invited, right?". These are people we see every few months, so I guess I could just wait until I see them in person, but there's no guarantee I'll see in person before the RSVP date (July 31st).  

What should I do, if anything? Or am I entirely overthinking this and should I just send back the RSVP and worry about it later?

Re: Invited without my fiance?

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    "Hi, Susie! I received your invitation in the mail...it's lovely! FI and I did notice that it was addressed only to me. We just wanted to clarify that he is also invited before returning the RSVP"

    She'll either respond with

    "OMG I'm sorry I forgot him, of course he's invited!!!"

    or

    "Sorry, we can only accomodate you and not FI"

    At that point, just say "Thanks so much for the clarification!" and make your RSVP decision.

  • Could she have sent a separate invitation to your FI?

    I'd find out.  itzMS's suggestion sounds good.
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