Should I attend a wedding I'm invited to if I'm not inviting the couple to mine?

AllyIdo

Hi All,

I will try to simplify this as much as possible.

I was very, very surprised to get invited to my best friend's brother's wedding. They must be having lots of people. Love the guy, but we haven't seen each other since she got married over 2 years go, have only hung met a few times over the years, never speak, just do the Facebook "like" and comment thing. He invited 2 other girls in our college group.

I'm getting married in April in Las Vegas and we are only having 50 people. It's been hard to keep the guest list this small, and as much as we would like to include this guy and his new wife, we can't.

So - can I attend this wedding in September? I want to! I would love to see them, but part of me feels bad because we cannot invite them to ours. Another part of me suspects that her brother said to her "If you want to have a couple of friends come to the wedding, we can invite 3." or something like that.

Thanks!

TheBaysideBride

Yes! there's no quid pro quo in wedding invites.

itzMS

If you want to go...heck yes you should go!

harper0813

Don't feel bad. Your wedding is intimate, family and close friends, and if he asks you can just explain that. Feel free to attend their wedding.

(Hey, you're saving them the money of traveling and/or buying a gift!)

MoonlightSilver

If they invited you, I'm pretty sure that means you're allowed to go.

AllyIdo

I wasn't asking if I was allowed, I was asking if I should.

harper0813

...and we said yes

AllyIdo

I know! And I will, thanks ladies

TheBaysideBride

hopefully it's not an issue - i had a weird sitaution a few months ago - my sister's friend invited me to her wedding, which I thought was sweet. And we are definitely friendly and have travelled together, but really the connection is my sister. I was going through my wedding list w/ my sis, and when she asked about this couple I told her we were keeping our list small and even some of our good friends weren't invited, and she was like, " BUT they invited you to theirs!!" I stood my ground, and as it turned out I coudlnt attend her friend's wedding anyway, so they got a nice gift!.

AllyIdo

Yup, I was thinking about my girlfriend's feelings too, if she'd be pissed about it. But she's been giving me advice from the get go while planning the wedding and she knows the constraints we are under, so I don't think there will be a problem.

phira

You're definitely not doing anything wrong if you don't invite him! Your situation is one of the best examples for not inviting someone who invited you: some weddings are just smaller than others.

There are a couple of couples (hyuck hyuck hyuck) who have invited me and my partner to their weddings, but depending on how much our venue costs, we might have to limit the guest list way too much.

So don't worry!