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rude to leave a shower early?

SJM7538SJM7538 member
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I have my fiance's cousin's bridal shower Saturday morning. It starts at 9 am. So I am assuming it probably goes until around noon. Is it rude to head out a little early? My fiance works in the town where the shower is but needs to be picked up from work at 11 Saturday morning because one of our cars is in the shop.

So I was planning on heading out right at 11 but then thought.... well is that rude? I've been to plenty of showers but they were all either showers I was hosting or at least assisting with so I always stayed right up until the end and never really noticed if guests took of a little early.

 

Appreicate the advise!

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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    No it is not rude.  If you can only stay till 11 then you can only stay to 11.  Just make sure to say goodbye to the bride and the host and thank them for inviting you.  Then make your way out.  You are never obligated to stay till the end of any party.

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    OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    Two of my dad's cousins had to leave my shower early because of another obligation.  I was happy they were there for the time they were.  I made sure to open their gifts while they were still there.

    I was not offended, but I guess it could depend on the bride.

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    harper0813harper0813 member
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    Just let the host know that you need to head out early and thank them and bid farewell to the bride before you head out. I don't see anything rude about having to leave after two hours.
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    southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    You're good to leave early if you need to - follow Maggie's advice and don't try to slip out (thank the host, say goodbye to the bride, etc.).
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    wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    I agree with PPs, as long as you let people know in advance, it's totally fine.  They'll understand.

    Someone had to leave my shower early, after about an hour or so.  She left while I was opening gifts, and we made sure to open hers while she was there.  I wasn't offended at all, and neither were the hosts.  I was really happy that she was able to come, even if she couldn't stay long.

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    itzMSitzMS member
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    Absolutely fine. Just keep an "eye" on the clock. For example, if there's a lull in the action at 10:50, it might be best to leave then versus disrupting a game at exacly 11:00.
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    SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    okay perfect! Thanks for the help.

     

     I'm actually kind of bummed I have to leave early. I think it'll be fun to finally attend a shower that I wasn't hosting.

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    misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Not rude. What I'm thinking is who freaking has a shower at 9am? I get wanting brunch, but geeze. 
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    SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    misssunshine17 said:
    Not rude. What I'm thinking is who freaking has a shower at 9am? I get wanting brunch, but geeze. 
    Lol, I thought the EXACT same thing when I got the invitation. Funny thing is the bride didn't even really want a shower from what she told me, but her future in laws insisted. My mom is hosting mine and I ask her nicely not to do it before noon.
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    Liatris2010 said:
    It is fine, just give the bride and hostess a heads up so they know you aren't leaving because you are bored, hate them, and can't stand another gift opening or silly game.
    This is what I was going to say, too!
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    STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Can he just hang out at work and read a book for an hour? I don't think it's rude to leave early, but if 11am falls in the middle of gift opening I would find it rude to interrupt the party and leave then.
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    lcobb517lcobb517
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    misssunshine17 said:
    Not rude. What I'm thinking is who freaking has a shower at 9am? I get wanting brunch, but geeze. 
    WORD!  I am planning my sister's shower, we thought brunch would be a good idea, and I felt badly for starting at 11:30.  9am on a Saturday would be a tough sell for me as a guest.
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    misssunshine17 said:
    Not rude. What I'm thinking is who freaking has a shower at 9am? I get wanting brunch, but geeze. 
    I thought this too.  9am on a Saturday is too damn early for anything let alone a bridal shower.

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    SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    STARMOON44 said:
    Can he just hang out at work and read a book for an hour? I don't think it's rude to leave early, but if 11am falls in the middle of gift opening I would find it rude to interrupt the party and leave then.


    Normally I would say yes and tell him to just chill out in the breakroom for an hour, but he's a police officer and he's working a double. So going in at 3pm Friday and working til 11am Saturday and then has to be back at 7pm Saturday night so I feel bad asking him to lose an hour of sleep. Especially since he's pulling the OT for our wedding that is 4 months away.

     

    That's mainly what I was worried about was getting up and taking off in the middle of gift opening. Hopefully if I give them a heads up it won't be akward.

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    MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    No she should be giving thanks to you for  taking the time out of your tight day to share with her.
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    STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Oh in that case def go get him! And if you are all sitting around try and snag a seat by the door.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Aside from the issue of a 9am bridal shower (wow, that's early), I think that as long as you let the hostess know that you have to leave early, you're in the clear.
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