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Dreamergirl8812

I can't stand the standard wedding party pictures. I'm going to be such a pain in the ass to our photographer.

There will be NO:

Picture of everyone's feet in a circle. Feet, really?
The groom and groomsmen wearing sunglasses and looking douchebaggy.
The wedding party jumping in the air for no reason.
The bridesmaids apparently worshiping me.
Anyone running in slow motion.
Any unnecessary pictures that don't really show anything: the ceremony chairs in focus with the wedding in the background.

elizabetheleven

Dreamergirl8812 said:

I can't stand the standard wedding party pictures. I'm going to be such a pain in the ass to our photographer.

There will be NO:

Picture of everyone's feet in a circle. Feet, really?
The groom and groomsmen wearing sunglasses and looking douchebaggy.
The wedding party jumping in the air for no reason.
The bridesmaids apparently worshiping me.
Anyone running in slow motion.
Any unnecessary pictures that don't really show anything: the ceremony chairs in focus with the wedding in the background.

I agree with all of this except for the last one. I want pictures of random objects! I want to remember details... The ones I'msure I won't remember. Maybe that's just me though

jarednmegan

elizabetheleven said:

I can't stand the standard wedding party pictures. I'm going to be such a pain in the ass to our photographer.

There will be NO:

Picture of everyone's feet in a circle. Feet, really?
The groom and groomsmen wearing sunglasses and looking douchebaggy.
The wedding party jumping in the air for no reason.
The bridesmaids apparently worshiping me.
Anyone running in slow motion.
Any unnecessary pictures that don't really show anything: the ceremony chairs in focus with the wedding in the background.

I agree with all of this except for the last one. I want pictures of random objects! I want to remember details... The ones I'msure I won't remember. Maybe that's just me though

I think a sunglasses photo is acceptable, but they don't have to look like douchebags while wearing them.

The jump pose is a little overdone, and because my BMs and I have long skirts, I'd be worried that one of us would get our foot caught on our dress hem when we land. Yikes. I know they won't be dragging the floor but I'd still be paranoid.

BMs/GMs pretending to worship me, faint, point and stand slack-jawed when FI and I kiss, etc....nuh uh. Same with slo-mo running...I don't get how that's funny or relevant.

As far as the last one, I think it depends on what you consider to be insignificant details. Chairs...nah. Not really worth focusing on. The photo ideas that involve the bride's shoes in the foreground, rings, etc...those are a little cliche' but I like them.

jarednmegan

sxyktn812 said:

I laughed at your running photo comments- when we were doing pictures for my wedding with my ex, one of the girls left her bouquet in the limo bus... my dad went back to get it and as he was returning to us in the park, he was jogging with the bouquet up in the air (sort of an "I got it!" moment).  Since we're from Philly, it was very Rocky-esque and we all burst out laughing.  The photographer turned, laughed and caught the shot, and it's one of the most precious photos and memories I have from that day.  I completely agree with not staging those silly shots but I couldn't be more glad she captured the moment.  

Now THAT sounds cute. If it's a candid shot that involves a memorable moment, that's a TOTALLY different story.

Recently, a friend of mine changed his FB profile picture to one of him and his wife on their wedding day. They're sitting in their getaway car and she has this totally unflattering facial expression, and he's grinning from ear to ear.

He said the car was his brother's, and that when he started it up the stereo was up so loud that his wife about jumped out of her skin (hence the weird look on her face)...and of course someone already had their camera out and captured that moment. PRICELESS. I hope FI and I will have at least one "you had to be there" kind of photo from our wedding.

Peledreamsofrain

hrm, wedding trends that I hate... gotta go with the growing popularity of cash registries like honeymoon registries. I know more and more people are using these, and it makes me sad to track the degradation of etiquette.

As far as the lumpy cake dresses, I think those are a matter of quality and body type. Lots of people try to shove all 'plus sized' girls into dresses with pickups without giving any thought at all over whether a seriously bottom heavy dress would be flattering to them. Then there's the horrific nature of the badly executed pickup.

OjitosVerdes

StageManager14 said:

True fact: my wedding video ends with the MoH kicking off his flip flops and chasing the car down the road barefoot with my overnight bag over his head yelling "you forgot the birth control!" If we had a photo of that, I would probably frame it and put it in my living room.

This is amazing. 

I agree with most of what everyone has posted. Additionally, my wedding hatred is directed at the general trend of everything having to be a "production" at weddings instead of just happening naturally. This includes things that aren't necessarily "new", like: 

-any sort of staged photos - I don't mean making sure you get a photo with your most important family members, I'm talking about things like someone holding a wedding band in the foreground while the groom is bending the bride over and kissing her in the middle of it in the background. *so cheesy* 

-elaborate "will you be my bridesmaid" boxes sent in the mail. Jesus. Just pick up the phone and ask them. 

-any sort of choreographed dance 

-bouquet/garter tosses

-grand entrances with songs picked out for each bridesmaid/groomsman/the bride and groom, etc. 

- monogrammed bridal party shit that they wear while getting ready, and probably never again

- cake toppers where the bride has the groom by the collar. 

-cutesy signs for everything. Your guests will figure out what the purpose of the mouthwash is for in the bathroom without a framed haiku, I promise. 

- programs prefaced with the wording "so you're going to sit through a wedding ... " as if you're apologizing to your guests for asking them to sit for 20 minutes while you say your vows. 

- "just wait 'til you see her signs" carried by the bridal party. These bug the shit out of me, but I can't figure out why. Feel free to psychoanalyze me. 

I just don't understand why we can't say our vows and then have an elegant reception without turning everything into a freaking photo op/cutesy poem/etc..  I'm also super cranky at the moment so I'm going to quit bitching and shut up now. But seriously. 

jarednmegan

THIS. I hope I'm never invited to a wedding with programs like this.

AddieCake

I say this all the time, so it's not news, but I hate the need for a "cute poem" or "cute sign" or "cute phrase" for every. little. thing. I swear, soon brides will be asking us to help them write a "cute thing" to direct people to the restrooms. 

jarednmegan

AddieL73 said:

I say this all the time, so it's not news, but I hate the need for a "cute poem" or "cute sign" or "cute phrase" for every. little. thing. I swear, soon brides will be asking us to help them write a "cute thing" to direct people to the restrooms. 

The ones about seating and beverage containers are all over Pinterest and they drive me insane. Blech.

AddieCake

I think I'll make a "cute sign" pic for any time I want to respond negatively to a poster. After all, so many women think the cute notes and poems will soften the blow of their rude ideas, right? 

soontobehanby

Liatris2010 said:

I want to play!

I hate those Pnina gowns with the sheer bodices, the ones with jeweled boobs, and then lace over the boning of the bodice. I guess I'm a big prude, but that is just too sexy for a wedding. Your arms shoulders, and bosom are already out, do we really need a peek of your belly-button too? Why not save the lingerie for the wedding night instead of the actual wedding?

Totally agree with this! I don't get why women want to be all sexual looking at their wedding. It isn't a night club!

OjitosVerdes

So much agreement with everyone!  Those Pnina gowns? No. Just NO. I'm no prude and maybe it's a personal taste thing, but "Vegas showgirl" is the last look I'm going for on my wedding day. 

@StageManager14 - you nailed it. I think it's definitely the narcissism aspect. It's just not genuine - it's not like a BM happened to run into the groom before the ceremony and on her own accord gushed about how great the bride looks. Those signs are made well in advance, most likely by the bride herself, and it just smacks of being so self-absorbed. 

@jarednmegan - that program is AWFUL. And it clarifies for me another general issue I have with wedding trends now, is that the ceremony/marriage part seems to be downplayed and the focus is on it being a huge party. I want my wedding reception to rock just as much as the next person, but I refuse to apologize or treat my ceremony like it's some sort of annoyance that people have to patiently endure before they can go get hammered. 

jarednmegan

So much agreement with everyone!  Those Pnina gowns? No. Just NO. I'm no prude and maybe it's a personal taste thing, but "Vegas showgirl" is the last look I'm going for on my wedding day. 

@StageManager14 - you nailed it. I think it's definitely the narcissism aspect. It's just not genuine - it's not like a BM happened to run into the groom before the ceremony and on her own accord gushed about how great the bride looks. Those signs are made well in advance, most likely by the bride herself, and it just smacks of being so self-absorbed. 

@jarednmegan - that program is AWFUL. And it clarifies for me another general issue I have with wedding trends now, is that the ceremony/marriage part seems to be downplayed and the focus is on it being a huge party. I want my wedding reception to rock just as much as the next person, but I refuse to apologize or treat my ceremony like it's some sort of annoyance that people have to patiently endure before they can go get hammered.


That's exactly what I got from it, too..."our guests are here to eat cake and get drunk." At the risk of sounding cliche' (sorry, not sorry), it's about a MARRIAGE. When it's all said and done, the promises made during the ceremony are what counts.

Besides, most ceremonies don't last that long anymore. Usually half an hour to 45 minutes...I think most people can survive that.

NYCBruin

AddieL73 said:

I say this all the time, so it's not news, but I hate the need for a "cute poem" or "cute sign" or "cute phrase" for every. little. thing. I swear, soon brides will be asking us to help them write a "cute thing" to direct people to the restrooms. 

I totally agree!  I think I find them so annoying because they are so often paired with rude ideas (not enough chairs, cash bar, not inviting SOs).  It somehow makes the rude behavior even worse.  Like, we could have afforded to include your SO, but we chose to spend money on an elaborate cutesy project because getting our Style Me Pretty worthy pictures are way more important than our guests' comfort.  Barf. 

binzy

Wait--do people think sunglasses and flip flops are lame?  I was thinking of having them b/c our reception is outside so will get sunny and b/c dancing barefoot might be less comfy that with flip flops or slippers or something.  But will people think it's too trite?

krizzo17

The photo that has been circulating on (where else?) pinterest lately with the groom waiting at the end of the aisle with a new puppy for the bride. Um, isn't she already supposed to be excited that she's marrying him? It's like he's bribing her into the back of a windowless van or something. For me, that's up there with "push presents" - your new baby is the present, you don't need diamonds for "giving" your husband a child. Wtf...

Jessa617

krizzo17 said:

The photo that has been circulating on (where else?) pinterest lately with the groom waiting at the end of the aisle with a new puppy for the bride. Um, isn't she already supposed to be excited that she's marrying him? It's like he's bribing her into the back of a windowless van or something. For me, that's up there with "push presents" - your new baby is the present, you don't need diamonds for "giving" your husband a child. Wtf...

Push presents is a real thing?? I love diamonds but hell I don't even have an engagement ring! I would never expect or even want a push present. Really? I just pushed a 5lb baby out of my vagina, leave me alone!

cwaggoner07

New puppy??? WTF! Look, I am crazy dog lady no doubt, but if I saw that on our wedding day, the first thing I would think of was 'F I need to call the boarder to add another dog while we're on our honeymoon'

Seriously. And I would be thinking about everything we had to do for the entire ceremony. And then I would be mad we didn't go to the shelter and pick one out together.

Awful.

Jessa617

StageManager14 said:

The puppy thing is ridiculous, but I have to admit, I kind of like the idea of presents for mothers at major parenting milestones like birth, weddings, etc. I think it's a sweet gesture, and it's been around for ages so I don't see it as "trendy".

I can see having a bouquet of flowers waiting for me, or some balloons or something. But let's face it, babies are expensive and I would never expect H to buy me diamonds after giving birth.

On the puppy note, adopting/purchasing a puppy is a huge decision and it's reasons like the one on Pinterest that so many end up in the shelter. Too many people buy puppies on a whim to "surprise" their kids, or girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife etc etc. Those decisions should be made together and the puppy or dog should be picked out together.

Jessa617

I agree Stage. I think if H wants to do something like that on his on without me telling him "Hey you're supposed to get m a gift on this such and such occasion". Of course I'd accept little tokens here and there but wouldn't want H to be forced to do something. It's like Valentine's Day. I'm not going to force him to do anything but if he does, it's still nice.

efmcc67

Actually, I think I've seen those signs on Pinterest. The suggestion is to put pictures of the bride and groom as children on the bathroom doors in lieu of the standard pictorial signs. I'm sorry, but I think that's the dumbest idea in the history of ever.

ETA: reply fail. This was meant to be a response to Addie's comment on brides eventually asking for cute signs to direct people to the bathroom.

jarednmegan

efmcc67 said:

Actually, I think I've seen those signs on Pinterest. The suggestion is to put pictures of the bride and groom as children on the bathroom doors in lieu of the standard pictorial signs. I'm sorry, but I think that's the dumbest idea in the history of ever.

WHAT. I've never seen that and hope that I never do. There's much cuter and way less weird ways (let's be honest, that's a little creepy) to display childhood photos.

efmcc67

jarednmegan said:

efmcc67 said:

Actually, I think I've seen those signs on Pinterest. The suggestion is to put pictures of the bride and groom as children on the bathroom doors in lieu of the standard pictorial signs. I'm sorry, but I think that's the dumbest idea in the history of ever.

WHAT. I've never seen that and hope that I never do. There's much cuter and way less weird ways (let's be honest, that's a little creepy) to display childhood photos.

Yeah, I agree. I've seen a similar suggestion to have pictures on the bride and groom on each table corresponding to the number of the table (e.g. table 1, pictures of the couple when they were one). 

jarednmegan

efmcc67 said:

jarednmegan said:

efmcc67 said:

Actually, I think I've seen those signs on Pinterest. The suggestion is to put pictures of the bride and groom as children on the bathroom doors in lieu of the standard pictorial signs. I'm sorry, but I think that's the dumbest idea in the history of ever.

WHAT. I've never seen that and hope that I never do. There's much cuter and way less weird ways (let's be honest, that's a little creepy) to display childhood photos.

Yeah, I agree. I've seen a similar suggestion to have pictures on the bride and groom on each table corresponding to the number of the table (e.g. table 1, pictures of the couple when they were one). 

I've seen that, too. We're not numbering our tables, or I'd consider doing that.

TKzilla

You mean to tell me I could've gotten a puppy on my wedding day?

Oh DH and I are going to have a TALK tonight. I'll be back later, gotta start planning my PPD - pretty puppy day.

kerbohl

@Krizzo17 Your comment was hilarious.  Bribing the bride . . . sadly it would probably work for me.  If FI has five bunnies waiting for me at the end of  the aisle, I'd be squealing over it.  But then I would get insanely distracted.  There is a time and a place for getting pets, but any time it could be mistaken for a bribe or will be an inconvenience to the animal (I mean what newly purchased puppy wants to be in a room full of people he/she doesn't know?  The stress must be really bad for these poor puppies) is not a good idea.

I keep getting annoyed at things I like being declared as "trends", because now there are several things at my wedding that are popular right now and makes me look like I only care about what's fashionable at the moment. 

Non-wedding related trends - coloured jeans.  Don't get me wrong, coloured pants are cool, but apparently I don't like change and I like denim how I remember it - blue. 

dem068

binzy said:

Wait--do people think sunglasses and flip flops are lame?  I was thinking of having them b/c our reception is outside so will get sunny and b/c dancing barefoot might be less comfy that with flip flops or slippers or something.  But will people think it's too trite?

I think this really depends on who you ask.  I have been to weddings with flip flop boxes and sunglasses and loved it.  I always bring flats in my purse since I can't stand in heels for more than hour, but was really psyched to have flip flops to change into, instead of flimsey flats.  People also tend to really like sunglasses and other props at weddings I have been to also. 

harper0813

I think this is one of the only times I've seen people angry at the idea of receiving puppies.

cwaggoner07

zobird said:

I think this is one of the only times I've seen people angry at the idea of receiving puppies.

I'm angry because it's over the top gestures like this that is the reason so many dogs are in shelters, and thus being euthanized. Would you surprise your S/O with a baby? I realize it's not the same level of work or responsibility, but it's still WORK and RESPONSIBILITY. 

This is my hot button. Dogs are not accessories, and they should not be sold for profit. Ever. They are living creatures that need care and nurturing.

/rant

harper0813

cwaggoner07 said:

zobird said:

I think this is one of the only times I've seen people angry at the idea of receiving puppies.

I'm angry because it's over the top gestures like this that is the reason so many dogs are in shelters, and thus being euthanized. Would you surprise your S/O with a baby? I realize it's not the same level of work or responsibility, but it's still WORK and RESPONSIBILITY. 

This is my hot button. Dogs are not accessories, and they should not be sold for profit. Ever. They are living creatures that need care and nurturing.

/rant

I understand. I just got sort of a kick out of it. It's like parents giving their kids pet bunnies at Easter and how many of them die every year. That whole trend really bothers me.