My FI hemmed and hawed at having a bridal party. We are doing a Quaker-style wedding and a wedding party is necessary. I felt torn and asked my best friend and sisters what they thought- the consensus was that they would help me with whatever I needed whether or not they had a title during the wedding. I sort of caved in and decided to go with a bridal party. This includes a junior BM and two ring bearers (niece and nephews). It wasn't until after I asked my sisters, best friend and FI's sister to be in the wedding that FI mentioned that he would've preferred that we didn't have a WP and keep the wedding simple.
Fast forward- there are 2 1/2 months until the wedding. I've come down with mono and can barely stay awake, am falling incredibly behind at work and lack energy to plan a wedding (unfortunately cannot afford a wedding planner). FI has stepped up after I got sick- even he is surprised at how much there is to do!
My MOH (sis) and I found a great dress that is reasonable in price and can definitely be worn again by all. FSIL has not tried on the dress. BF recently moved out of state for a new job can't realistically plan too much. My sis is a single mom struggling financially, FSIL is young, doesn't
drive and can be unreliable (she's not mean, just sort of in her own
world). I was ok with doing most of the planning myself but suddenly feel that I am not able to complete it all. My mom is one of those people who needs to be told exactly what to do, making decisions isn't her things so she's admitted that she isn't good with planning, esp. a wedding.
I feel that there is a lot to do with the wedding party, more than I initially realized: dresses, accessories, hair, make-up, shoes, flowers, gifts, parties, etc....
I don't really want to deal with it any more. I just want to sleep and get better. Is there a tactful way to back out of a having a wedding party? I feel that I would saving myself a lot of sanity and money, and be able to concentrate on the things that I feel up to accomplishing.