Morning Wedding, Afternoon Rodeo, Evening Reception

MuppetFan

I'm pretty sure that we didn't misinterpret comments like "Thanks for the input, but no thanks".

We're blunt and direct, most of us don't candy coat. I know it can be overwhelming to go away for a day and come back to see a ton of people telling you that you have some bad ideas.

I felt like very defensive over my first post on here but I honestly waited a day to think about it and process what people said because I was the ONLY one who thought I had a great idea. By the time I came back, I was in a different state of mind, I asked more dumb questions and got more blunt feedback, and I accepted it and used the advice.

Anyway, we'll tell you how we see it but you get over that when you realize we are really trying to help you...and that we also have solutions and suggestions for you. I welcome you to stick around and plan with us.

ETA: I also welcome you to lurk a while and read threads about cash bars and inviting SOs before posting about them. They are....hot topics.

AddieCake

My only problem with your plan was the huge gap. I don't care if you want to rodeo at your reception or not.

 

 

 

 

skennygirl18

@MuppetFan, I hope you saw my apology too I loved the suggestions you gave, and you were part of the group I appreciated. I kind of smiled to your comparison of my roping to a roller skate rink... touche! Like I said, people may disagree and I wanted to get the overall feel for it. There were just a few comments made that hit me wrong, particularly the ones that did target me as a bad person who was pro animal abuse. lol. THAT is what gets my guard up and the defense comes flying out. But yes, please know I am happy for the wedding discussion, even if it is opposing to my original plan.
@MoonlightSilver: I've considered that but honestly, lame reasoning, I just like evening receptions better so if anything, I'll move wedding to evening too, and just move roping to seperate date if I can get hubby to understand the reasoning. Just trying to keep everyone happy... gets crazy!!  

skennygirl18

@AddieL73... thank you!! I agree the gap is a nuisance as well..... 

MuppetFan

Hey good. So, tell us about yourself.

MuppetFan

Our fellow knottie friend just got married this weekend and had a beautiful Western influence with cowboy boots and mason jars and boots and branches and it was lovely. I'm trying to get her to post one of the photos for you as further influence.

Peledreamsofrain

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skennygirl18

@Peledreamsofrain... I'm sorry if you felt attacked by my personal defense. MuppetFan made a great point that getting overwhelmed by lots of opinions at once can make a person jump for throats if one doesn't sit back and absorb everything. I was hopin in the apology posts I followed with that people such as yourself who weren't bitchy or offensive in their comments would also forgive me for my quick temper. Both of your posts also made me laugh, because yea, my man in his suit would be a sight to see in the ring horseback! Sorry if I offended you, and I wasn't trying to refer to all "city" folk... there's some pretty ignorant country people too, myself included at times. Thank you again though for your suggestions. 

skennygirl18

@MuppetFan, thank you for your help, I appreciate that alot! I really enjoy seeing how other people set up their decor. I am from a very small town in southeast Idaho. I'm 23 and active in (of course) rodeo, but I'm also a 4-H horse club leader, and work for the county as a clerk. I love being outdoors, no matter the activity. My fiance is 25, rodeos (we actually met at a roping), trains horses, and volunteers with a rodeo bible camp every summer. As a common life goal, we both would like to get an horse training arena put together someday where we could work with kids with disabilities as well as a correlated program with the county juvenile probation for at-risk teens. Our wedding colors are turquoise, brown, and ivory. 

MuppetFan

Very cool. I think western or country are going to be excellent influences to your wedding. I think you could get some really fun engagement photos involving rope and horses etc...maybe at a rodeo?

My FI loves baseball, but it wasn't something I was keen on for a wedding theme (anymore than he would want a Muppet wedding) so we did baseball engagement photos (really fun) and our guest book is a baseball jersey that people will autograph and we'll frame for display in our home.

http://jtruephotography.com/2013/05/britni-and-jasons-day-at-the-park/

Peledreamsofrain

skennygirl18 said:

@Peledreamsofrain... I'm sorry if you felt attacked by my personal defense. MuppetFan made a great point that getting overwhelmed by lots of opinions at once can make a person jump for throats if one doesn't sit back and absorb everything. I was hopin in the apology posts I followed with that people such as yourself who weren't bitchy or offensive in their comments would also forgive me for my quick temper. Both of your posts also made me laugh, because yea, my man in his suit would be a sight to see in the ring horseback! Sorry if I offended you, and I wasn't trying to refer to all "city" folk... there's some pretty ignorant country people too, myself included at times. Thank you again though for your suggestions. 

Thanks, I appreciate you taking the time to let me know I wasn't the target of that post.

On another note, you are from Idaho too? Holy heck I've been on this site for two years and never ran across another Idaho girl! My H's family is from Caldwell.

skennygirl18

@Peledreamsofrain, Caldwell is about 5 hours away from me but I also have friends and family there Very cool. 

@MuppetFan, we did some of our engagements in California at a friends ranch in Red Bluff, tried to give them a country feel (see attached picture for one). We borrowed their horses for some pics but we might try again for a few in Idaho with our own horses and the dogs. If we do they probably won't end up with the invites though, as our wedding is 3 months out and I'm working on finishing my address labels. I love the baseball jersey idea though, very fun. 

HobokensFury

@skennygirl18 I'm sorry that you think I'm ignorant.  In my neck of the woods grown men chasing down an innocent baby calf and roping it is animal cruelty.  I'm entitled to my opinion of it as you are entitled to have the opposite one.  Chances are at least one or more of your guests may feel the same way reguardless of where they are from.  I'll go back to my concrete jungle now, which btw is just as judgemental as the post you are fighting against. 

MuppetFan

Really? She's already apologized.

MuppetFan

thanks!

NOLAbridealmost

I wold just like to defend my earlier post against allegations of being a city-slicker by saying that I don't care what activity fills the afternoon portion of the OP, it's still the worst idea ever. If the question had been "Can I have a morning ceremony, a sustainable development rally outside Whole Foods in the afternoon, and then the reception" my answer would have been the same. It doesn't matter how much a particular hobby or interest appeals to FI, you, or even a large number of guests...a large gap devoted to it is completely rude.

MuppetFan

She agreed that it was a bad idea and that it was rude to have the gap.

skennygirl18

@mrsridings061513, I love your decor. Sunflowers are my main flower as well Thanks so much for your help! 

skennygirl18

HobokenBride2012 said:

@skennygirl18 I'm sorry that you think I'm ignorant.  In my neck of the woods grown men chasing down an innocent baby calf and roping it is animal cruelty.  I'm entitled to my opinion of it as you are entitled to have the opposite one.  Chances are at least one or more of your guests may feel the same way reguardless of where they are from.  I'll go back to my concrete jungle now, which btw is just as judgemental as the post you are fighting against. 

I really hope you caught the sarcasm dripping off of that statement I made which you are referring to you. I realize that you may not be in a "concrete jungle" but I felt it was pretty rude to assume we're abusive. Thus I threw out a potentially equally offensive and judgmental statement  And just to clarify, team roping is a little different than calf roping, which yes, I even agree, is a bit gut wrenching when it's done competitively All the same, thanks for seeing the post and putting in your input, because you do make a valid point that it may not be something enjoyed by EVERYONE (not that I plan on everyone being there for it, but yes, back to the large extensive gap, bad idea).  

skennygirl18

@EllaYoung, I actually enjoyed your first comment alot. Totally something I had put some thought toward too is trying to pack sooo much activity into one day that's supposed to be fun (but simply so). My biggest issue I guess is getting my equally stubborn soon-to-be to see things our way I'm sure we can work out a compromise though because there were a lot of really great alternative ideas thrown out there as well! 

skennygirl18

@mrsridings061513, PLEASE tell me about the catfish cake. love it! And I love your cake topper... I'm thinking about this for my cake.... (if it will load....) 

skennygirl18

http://media-cache-ak1.pinimg.com/originals/7d/d5/f1/7dd5f1e6f020b0775e3d5f33922b61c2.jpg

May work easier...  

Dreamergirl8812

OP, I apologize for my dancing hick gif.

I just happened to come across it while responding to the fact that I would be miserable and starving if I was a guest at your wedding and thought it was funny.

I object to the rude parts you've owned up to, and I think rodeos are cruel, but I don't dislike country or think you guys all dance like this guy. Seriously though, I crack up every time I see this.

HobokensFury

skennygirl18 said:

HobokenBride2012 said:

@skennygirl18 I'm sorry that you think I'm ignorant.  In my neck of the woods grown men chasing down an innocent baby calf and roping it is animal cruelty.  I'm entitled to my opinion of it as you are entitled to have the opposite one.  Chances are at least one or more of your guests may feel the same way reguardless of where they are from.  I'll go back to my concrete jungle now, which btw is just as judgemental as the post you are fighting against. 

I really hope you caught the sarcasm dripping off of that statement I made which you are referring to you. I realize that you may not be in a "concrete jungle" but I felt it was pretty rude to assume we're abusive. Thus I threw out a potentially equally offensive and judgmental statement  And just to clarify, team roping is a little different than calf roping, which yes, I even agree, is a bit gut wrenching when it's done competitively All the same, thanks for seeing the post and putting in your input, because you do make a valid point that it may not be something enjoyed by EVERYONE (not that I plan on everyone being there for it, but yes, back to the large extensive gap, bad idea).  

Did I hurt your feelings that much that you felt the need to flag me? Eta: I also saw you flagged Ella. Neither of us broke any rule or the TOS. We simply didn't agree with you. This is an abuse of the flagging system and will get you banned. @knotporscha

skennygirl18

I didn't mean to flag anybody... my bad! 

skennygirl18

Wow... talk about exhausting! I really do apologize about the flags, I honestly didn't mean to... like you EllaYoung said, why in the blazes would I flag a post I liked? I know I had intentions on hitting love it on both referred posts, possibly click error, I don't know. As you can tell from my lack of proper lingo, I don't do this very often so please please let's just chalk it up to user error. I'm not here to fight and argue, I apologize if I got defensive ( I think we all are a little bit) but I'd really like to discuss planning this event out so if you wanna stay with this conversation now that we've steamed a little, awesome! If you don't like rodeo, whether you're part of it or not, that's fine... my opinion of it isn't changing any time soon so let's not turn this into a persuasive debate on that topic. I've been put in my place about internet etiquette so no more tantrum defenses from me.
Any who....

Here's a thought I have, inspired from several PPs, that I might throw to the FI (I'm assuming that stands for Fiance by the way?).... what if him and the guys and whatever guests that wanted to participate, did the roping in the morning until early-mid afternoon, then we did wedding/reception that night? I figure me and the girls are the ones that will need forever and a day to get ready anyway and I'm going to want to oversee the final decor, so this way he can still have what he wants, but everyone's not getting strung out. The place I have in mind for all of this is in Lava Hot Springs, Idaho, so there's hotels, spas, & several attractions around the area for out of town people to fill there time with pre-wedding and next day, especially if the roping is of no interest to them. Yay? Nay?

skennygirl18

@mrsridings061513, the cake topper on the cake picture you just posted is the other one I've been looking at. I love the montana silversmith collection too, just wish they were a little cheaper  

skennygirl18

That's definitely been something on my mind the whole time! My cousin also had a 5pm wedding ceremony and I think we met at like 9 or 10 am and we were still running all over to have everything ready by start time  

RebeccaB88

@skennygirl18 - I'm glad you liked my ideas.   I just thought I might have a perspective on it that I hadn't seen brought up yet. I'm actually not really convinced that the roping really belongs in a wedding day at all, but it's obviously something that's really important to you both, so I wanted to try to work with it somehow.  I might be a little concerned about doing it before the wedding itself, though. You know it's not something that's completely without risk, and I'd hate for your groom or someone in the wedding party to end up in the ER with an injury and not make it to the wedding. For safety's sake maybe a day-after party would be something to consider.  And there are lots of ways to have the kind of wedding that reflects you and your FI as a couple while still taking the comfort and convenience of your guests into consideration, like you're figuring out as you go along here. The style and feel of wedding should be completely you, you just plan the appropriate location, timing, hosting, etc so they feel welcome and comfortable.  And that makes it all good. 

MuppetFan

As long as your groom arrives in tact for the wedding, I think the timing is okay. The other option is to swap it and do a morning wedding and put himself in harms way after the fact.

If you didn't remember clicking flag, and selecting a way for abuse, I'm not sure you did the flags. I have a theory that someone is going around flagging certain peoples posts across the board.