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Feeling guilty...

I was in my best friend's wedding last weekend, and it was a blast. I recorded the parent dances, and the father-daughter dance turned out great. I'm sure the mother-son dance would have been great too...except that it cut off after only 6 seconds of recording!! No reason for it. It recorded them walking to the dance floor, and as soon as the music started it just stopped.

The thing is, I had already told the groom that I filmed their dance and he was so excited about it. I feel just terrible (thank God I never told his mom. She's such a sweetheart and would have been crushed). This wouldn't have bothered me 5 months ago because I didn't like him all that much, but he's really grown on me (funny how that happens when you take the time to get to know a person...), and I really wanted to surprise him with the video as a gesture of goodwill. He was so bummed when I told him what happened and I feel awful. He took it in stride and said it was ok and that he really appreciated the thought and we hugged it out. But still, the look on his face...like a sad puppy.

I guess there isn't really a point to this post. I'm just hoping that if say it (type it?) out loud I won't feel as guilty.

Re: Feeling guilty...

  • I don't think you need to feel guilty. Stuff like this happens and there isn't anything you can do to fix it. It's unfortunate but not really worth dwelling on.


  • Don't feel guilty! This is exactly what happened to me for my proposal. One of my best friends was there and literally we have everything leading up to me getting there, then everything after the proposal. She had it on record, clicked record (which turned it off), and then when she tried to stop it she actually started recording again. So she literally recorded the exact opposite of what she tried to record. 'm totally okay with it, even thought it would have been amazing to have, because it was an HONEST mistake, and wasn't intentional (her boyfriend who is our best man was SUPER pissed though since it was his idea and he was like how can you not see the red light!) but I am totally okay with it. 
  • Awwww......that's a bummer,but it's not your fault, and there's nothing you can do about it. 


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  • I'm sorry! That really sucks! I can understand why you feel bad, but it was an honest mistake. Your intentions were great and heartfelt, and I'm sure the groom understands.

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  • Mistakes and accidents happen.  If they are truly your friend they will be understanding and won't hold it over you.  Don't feel guilty.  It sounds like they understood and are not going to blame you for the mistake.  That is something he will remember his whole life I'm sure even if it's not recorded.   
  • Don't feel bad.  At the wedding of my aunt's friends' daughter, the very expensive videographer they hired forgot the videotape.  He realized it, but, since he didn't want them finding out anything was wrong, he PRETENDED to record everything.  This was several years ago, but you'd think that he could have called someone and gotten a tape instead of pretending for the whole wedding and reception.
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  • When my grandfather and nonna (my mom's stepmom) got married, my mom videotaped the ceremony for them. She gave it to my aunt, who lived closer to them, to give them when they got back from the honeymoon ... and my uncle taped over it. With the Simpsons.

    Don't feel bad, it could be worse! He knows you meant well and never did anything with ill intent.
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  • If he's ever taken video, he knows cameras can be flakey. He has the memory of the dance itself. I'm sure he'll understand. Besides, I'm sure someone else in the room probably got a picture or two. 
  • Even if you inadvertently missed one, it was very nice of you to film the parent dances.



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  • Wow, after reading some of your stories I don't feel so bad! I just have to stop replaying the sad puppy-dog eyes in my head. Stantokm, I can't believe any professional would just pretend to film like that! 

    Thanks for all the reassurance. I'm glad I got at least one of the dances and plenty of pictures.

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