Bachelorette Party Gift ?

tigersgirlgv

Hi,

I'm planning my younger sister's bachelorette party for this summer. I am wondering if there is any way to indicate that gifts are not neccessary, especially of the lingerie variety. I'm pretty sure that the answer is no, you can't mention gifts on an invitation, it is rude to assume that people would bring a gift. But my sister will be mortified if she opens any lingerie in front of other people. She is very shy and she would be beyond uncomfortable to be put in this position. Any suggestions? 

Or suggestions of ways to avoid her extreme embarrassment if gifts are brought? 

Thanks! 

Blue_Bird

I suggest that you trust your sister's friends know her well enough not to buy her lingerie if she's uncomfortable with that. Even if someone does bring her a gift of lingerie, will your sister really be that humiliated by opening it, to the point where she couldn't enjoy the party afterward, or will she be a little embarrassed and move on? If her reaction would really be that extreme, I would think anyone close enough to be invited would know better.

tigersgirlgv

Thanks ladies! I'm probably just over thinking it/being an overprotective big sister. Thanks for the etiquette OK that she doesn't have to show off anything that does show up

itzMS

tigersgirlgv said:

Thanks ladies! I'm probably just over thinking it/being an overprotective big sister. Thanks for the etiquette OK that she doesn't have to show off anything that does show up

I always bring a gift to a bachelorette. Sometimes it is lingere, sometimes a beauty product, sometimes a bottle of booze, depending on the bride. Speaking of booze, give your sis a nice glass of wine before the party. She'll be fine :-)

tigersgirlgv

Yeah, I've only been to one bachelorette party and everyone brought a gift, except me (oops!), so I assumed that was the norm.

Unfortunately my sister doesn't drink but thanks for the advice.