Wedding Party Hotel

mrstobe2014

The big question I have right now is should I pay for my maids' hotel rooms? 

I'm not having a destination wedding, but I moved two states away from home, and that's where all my maids will be coming from. Do I pay for their hotel accommodations? And if so, can I double the girls up in double bed rooms (they're all single, if that matters)? I like the idea of the gesture, but the price tag of the idea quite hefty. I was also thinking about buying their dresses, but I can't afford to do both. 

Dresses or hotel rooms? Which is more appropriate? 

AddieCake

Only if you want to. If you want to do one, choose the one you can best afford. 

Kate61487

You're not responsible for either.

ETA - not to say you can't DO either if you want; but it shouldn't be expected, so do what works for your budget.  If you can't spring for the full room cost for each of them individually I'd probably lean toward the dress or just tell them you'll cover 50% of the room for each and they'll double up on their own if they want.  I think it would be weird if you "force" them to share, you know?

misssunshine17

You're not responsible for either, but it would be very kind of you to do either one. Could you maybe facilitate sharing rooms so they can save money that way and then pay for their dresses?

Dreamergirl8812

Some might be skeptical of this but I would offer to pay for the rooms of any friends that I knew were financially struggling. In my group, it would be completely acceptable to pay for the friend that just had a baby, or is having their wedding 3 weeks after ours, but not the friend who can afford it (unless she brings up financial concerns).

southernbelle0915

Etiquette wise you don't need to pay for either.

misssunshine17

Dreamer, I think it's great to help people if you can, but I suggest keeping it under wraps. I was a BM in college and the bride paid a bunch of the expenses of another BM (who didn't have a license so couldn't get a job because she said she was too afraid to drive) but I was irritated because my money was also tight busting my ass in college but because I didn't complain about it constantly, she didn't offer to help. So I'm not saying don't help,  but I wouldn't bring it up to any other BMs. 

LavenderHoneyBee

Im also considering paying for hotel rooms for my maids the night before the wedding. I see it like this, they aren't really choosing to come the night before the wedding - I'll need them for the rehearsal. So I feel like it'd be nice to pay for that. I will probably offer it to my girls along the lines of "Im planning to get one(or two) rooms for us to all share the night before the wedding, for whoever would like to join." I think that this is a nice bonus for them. 

Dresses is an expected costs, as is a hotel room the night of the actual wedding, so I think paying for something that is a little above and beyond (the hotel the night before) is extra nice. And yes, def double girls up.