I apologize, I'm very new here! I hope it all makes sense.
We haven't set a date yet, but I will be getting married in approximately a year and a half to two years. My fiancee has a son, who I adore and will be about 11 at the time of our wedding, however, I've always been dead set on a kid-free wedding and reception. Is it inappropriate to only invite children of a certain age and above as long as there is no deviance? I'd really like for my future stepson to be a part of our wedding and understand it would be rude to state "no children", but still have him there.
Another issue that I have is that my MOH has a daughter who will only be about 2 when I get married and she is pretty set on her daughter being part of my wedding, even though I hadn't mentioned it and even told her of my plans to have a kid-free wedding. I just feel that most children don't care about weddings so they're bored, end up crying or running around, and as selfish as it may sound, it's about me and my fiancee getting married and I'd like to do that, relatively distraction free. Is there any good way to word that I'd only like kids 10 and up at my wedding/reception? How do I talk to my MOH about my concerns, even though I love her daughter? She suggested a babysitting service to be utilized at my wedding and reception, but I feel that some parents will prefer to keep their children with them, so it doesn't eliminate my issue. Any help would be GREATLY appreciated!