Okay my fiancé and I come from a small town and my dad can't stand his mom. Plus she's had some trouble with the law and my dad thinks our family won't come to a reception where she is present. My dad almost wasn't going to come to the wedding. He pushed for a destination wedding, so we are getting married in FL. with only 20-30 people. I want a reception back home (in Ky) to do the traditional garter toss, bouquet toss, and first dance. My dad wants us to have separate receptions and almost treat them like welcome to the family parties. I do think some of my family would come to a reception with his family. I've already given up so much of my dream wedding for something that has nothing to do with me or my fiancé that I still want a bug reception. His family has no idea that there are any issues and is very welcoming. Can I treat his family's reception like my actual reception with photobooth and all and let my dad throw us a welcome party? If so can I invite my side to both? I do think most of my cousins would come and have a great time. I'm soo upset at the thought of loosing the reception I've always dreamed of.