My MOH is my best friend of nearly 20 years, we've had our fights and ups and downs but our friendship has grown and endured. My fiancee thought she was always kind of flaky but never made a fuss about it. He and I have been together 7 years and just got engaged a few weeks ago, but the trouble between the two of them started a few years ago at a mutual friend's bachelorette party.
Scenario: 2 years ago- We had made it back to the hotel suite after a great dinner and were sitting with a bottle of wine and having some girl talk. My MOH was getting a little tipsy and asked me when my boyfriend and I were going to get married (we'd been together about 5 years). I told her that he and I had talked about it and we agreed that when we both felt that it was right we would get married but that I was happy with the status quo. She then began to sob and blurted out "I'm just so sad for you!". Excuse me? This led to a huge fight and I planned on not telling my boyfriend about the conversation. A few days later I let some of what happen slip and afterhe asked me what happend I told him what she said. He was furious and understandably so has not had a great opinion of her ever since.
Fast forward two years and he and I are planning our wedding, I've always wanted her to be my MOH and my fiancee has no problem with her being in that position. About a week after announcing our engage meant I get an out-of-the-blue text from her that reads: "Just thinking of you and how happy I am that you and (fiancee) are getting married! I'm so proud of you and realized I like (fiancee) so much better now - LOL! I guess subconsciously I was withholding my approval but I feel so much more comfortable now, I could just give him a hug! Congratulations again love!"
This was about a week ago and I have yet to tell my fiancee about it because I don't want to cause any more issues but it is really starting to bug me. If she has a deeper issue with him should I push this conversation with her? I need some neutral advice.