Makeup the whole party, or just myself??

FutureMrsRice1012

My fiance and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves so are definitely working on a budget.  My question is whether or not I am supposed to pay for just me to get hair/makeup done or for the whole party or can they pay for/do their own?  I actually have short hair and am not planning on doing much to it so am thinking about doing my own.  What is usually custom? I've only been to one other wedding in my life and now I'm supposed to plan one, and I just really don't know how this works.

Thank you SO much for any help

BlondieBia21

I believe etiquette says that if you REQUIRE them to have their hair and makeup done at a certain place by a certain person, you will pay for it. If you ask them to style their hair in a certain way and have makeup done a certain way, allow them to do it themselves if you don't want to pay for it. 

ETA: If they choose that they want someone to do their hair and makeup on their own, they pay. If you suggest to them how you want it, leave it up to them to do it their own or arrange to have someone else do it. 

MairePoppy

If you're considering hiring a MU artist, you could give the bms the price for MU and let them know it's an option, not a requirement. You're not required to pay, unless you make it mandatory. I'll go a step further and say it's inappropriate to insist that your friends and family are required to do it, even if you're paying. I had my MU done professionally once and I hated it. Plus, I had a bad reaction to the unfamiliar products.

KJiras

When I booked mine I sent an email to my girls and told them I loved them just as they are, but if they wanted to get their hair and/or makeup done here is who I was using and their rates. Some booked for hair, some for makeup, some for both or neither. As PPs said you aren't required to pay unless you are selecting their hairstyle, etc. which isn't really a great idea anyway. 

Blue & White

Op - I've generally heard that if you require it, you pay for it. When given the option of paying, I usually just do hair/makeup myself. I also am prone to panic attacks though and for some reason getting made up (and the smells of hairspray) don't sit right with my brain.

Shoot off of this question - is a bride that's not paying for hair for her girls stepping over the line when she is requiring us to wear updos? I'm just a bit peeved because an updo costs more than half up/down and is significantly harder to do yourself. Needless to say, I will figure out a way to do it myself.

KeptInStitches

OP - I agree with PP. It doesn't sound like you're requiring makeup, but you could give them the info on the MUA and go from there.

Blue, I'd say she's off-base because she's requiring a specific hairstyle for two reasons: 1.) it's damn hair, it doesn't matter how anyone wears it and 2.) when specific styles are required by the bride, she should pay for them.

wittykitty14

PPs have nailed it. If you require anything specific, you need to pay for it.  But if you have absolutely no preference, it's 100% ok to not pay.

I'm getting my hair and make up professionally done.  I'm not asking anything specific on my bridesmaids, so they'll be doing their own, as far as I know.

hockey20

I believe if you aren't requiring your party to have their hair/make up done by anyone in particular, you don't have to pay for it, that's your prerogative.

I'm paying for my party to have theirs done, as a gift to them, from me. This the family that I want with me on my day, and I want them to feel as looked after and special as I do. Plus my niece (the FG) has no clue that she's getting hair and makeup done.

Wicked93

I booked and paid for my bridesmaids to have their hair and make-up done - We are having a destination ewdding Vegas, and I thought it was a nice way to thank them so they don't have to stress about their hair/makeup. Plus, I know I am going to be a nervous wreck, so it frees them up to keep me calm! LOL

I also got them "Day of Shirts" which i am totall excited about!!

CnJ2021

I totally agree with everyone else-let them choose! I'm getting married in just a couple weeks and have hired hair and makeup. However, unfortunately I cannot afford to pay for my bridal party's hair and makeup as well. I gave them the prices of each and told them that it was 100% completely up to them. Out of my 6 girls 2 are getting both, 2 are getting just hair and 2 aren't doing either.

It can get quite pricey to be a bridesmaid so I tried to give them as many options to control their costs as possible!