my boyfriend and i aren't engaged yet, but we're already planning
(financial reasons), and we've decided to have a dry wedding. it makes
senses for us because neither of us drink very much, we're paying for
the entirety of the wedding ourselves and alcohol is a HUGE expense, and
there are recovering alcoholics in my family.
we're planning a winter wedding, so we're considering the possibility of
having hot chocolate, coffee, and hot "cider" instead of a bar, as well
as sparkling grape juice for those who (like me) prefer cold drinks
even in winter. so it's not like we won't have alternatives.
i'm
prepared for the snarky comments that will likely arise from this,
although the inevitable "so, when's the baby due?" is going to annoy me
no matter who/where it comes from. i'll have a hard time keeping myself
from responding with "are you saying i look fat in my wedding dress?!".
my question is this: do
we announce it to the guests prior to the wedding in some way (on the
menu going out with the invitation, for example), do we tell our parents
and bridal party and let the word circulate that way, or do we just not
say anything?