So, I have to make a decision on something. Totally NWR, and probably a non-issue. I'm sure I'm fretting over nothing, but I can't make up my mind and was hoping for your thoughts.
Currently I am on my dad's cell phone plan. FI is still on his parents as well. At some point shortly after the wedding (which is soon), we were planning on leaving our parents plans and getting our own. We have to move quite a ways after the wedding, so we figured once we were stable we'd switch the phones and pay for it ourselves. Our parents are fine with this, NBD.
My mom currently has just her and my grandfather on her plan. My pepere passed away in December, but she has kept his number up because she hasn't wanted to give up that phone number (it was originally his home phone, so they've had the number for 40 years). Apparently my mom is grandfathered into an old cell phone plan. If she drops my pepere's number from her plan, she must change plans (and her current plan is fantastic). If she adds another number, she also would be forced to change plans.
Here's where I come into this. My mom asked me if I wanted to join her plan, and switch to having my pepere's phone number. One, because she doesn't want me to be tied down to my dad because he's financially irresponsible, two because she doesn't want to give up that phone number (sentimental value), and three, because she predicts nothing but financial failure from me, and wants to keep me from having extra expenses.
This is what I think. My phone number is FANTASTIC. Seriously, it's such a great number. I don't want to get rid of it. Plus, now that I'm further along in my life, changing my phone number would be a PITA. But on the other hand, I'm sentimental and don't want the family to have to give up my pepere's number. (My mom was originally going to have his number be our home phone, but since she found out about her cell phone plan, she "can't"). This is also just one more thing that my mom "expects" me to do to help her out, which bothers me. She's presenting it as if she's doing me a big favor, but I know underneath it's so I can help her. "Helping me" is secondary. And although she "asked", I know I'm going to get shit if I say anything but yes. Normally, I'd have no issue saying "no". I'm trying to cut financial ties with my parents, not make it worse. But the whole sentimental aspect of this is getting to me. Giving up his phone number is just another thing to remind us that he's gone, and how much it hurts. Now I feel as though the weight is entirely on my shoulders. Idk. I'm torn, and probably making this into a bigger issue than it needs to be.
WWYD? Thanks for your help.
Edited for clarity