Addressing Envelopes Questions

Amsdragonfly

This is similar to the post about not knowing the husband below, but that post did not answer what I was wondering: if I know the wife and only know the husband's first name, and know the wife has a different last name than the husband's and do not know the husband's last name, how do I address the envelope? I understand I invite them both, but how would that look? And finding out the husband's name wont work for me- I am a teacher, and wont see the wife again (fellow teacher) until September. I hadn't foreseen this problem until now... 

Also, I am inviting two other women whom I do not know their husband's first names (also teachers I can't contact about names)- would that be just "Mr & Mrs LastName" (due to lack of the man's first name)? 

And last, this is just to confirm what I already have seen, your return address goes on the back of the envelope, right? (Not the upper left corner like on normal letters) or does that not matter?

Thank you!!

southernbelle0915

You need to find out the names of your guests. Either call or email these women and ask for the spelling of their husbands names (not exactly a dead give away that you don't know their names). 

Maggie0829

Like southernbelle said, just call up or email your friends and ask them.  Not a big deal.

And as far as return addresss, it really doesn't matter.  I like the return address on the back because it keeps the front of your envelope clean and simple but in the end it really doesn't matter either way.

meg2marryshane

I'd go into www.whitepages.com and see if you can get the answer there.  It normally shows other people living in the household. Facebook is also a good source.  Or as PP said, email and ask.

 

As far as the return address, yes, it's centered on the envelope's back flap.

Amsdragonfly

Those are all great ideas- thanks a lot! I tried whitepages.com and found everyone there. Super easy, thanks!!

Jen4948

Find out the other person's full name.  Contact the person you know and ask them.

jewely24

Just an FYI to anyone putting the return addresses on the back of the envelope.  We did this on my cousin's invites and someone at the post office loaded half of them into the sorter backwards.  So they scanned the return address as the "send to" address and half of her invites were mailed to her house.  I'm sure this (hopefully) doesn't happen often, but it did dissuade me from putting the return addresses on the back of my own invitations.....

Amsdragonfly

@ jewely24- I wrote the return small in the center on the top flap of the envelope- hopefully they wont be read that way- that's terrible! I did the addresses in larger calligraphy so hopefully it wont happen. 

Kristin789

First, if you don't know these people outside of work, then you should not be inviting them to a personal private event.

Next, you can go to the school secretary and get all of that information for your invitations.

AddieCake

Kristin789 said:

First, if you don't know these people outside of work, then you should not be inviting them to a personal private event.

Next, you can go to the school secretary and get all of that information for your invitations.

Our school secretary would never have given out this information. 

mlg78

Quite honestly, why would you invite someone to your wedding if you don't even know their spouse's name? I'm inviting 245 people and I know everyone's significant other's name...including all of my coworkers even though I'm not inviting all of them.  I'd hope you'd be close enough to them that you'd know things like that.

And I agree with Addie -- any secretary who wants to keep her job wouldn't give out that info.  And if you're inviting them to your wedding you should be able to just ask "hey, what's your address?"