I'm the MOH for my friends upcoming wedding. She lives in a different state than I do so we've decided to one bridal shower there with her family and a few friends and one same-day bridal shower/bachelorette party here. The shower guest list will include some of the bride and groom's family as well as friends, the bachelorette party will be a small group of friends. Is it okay to ask that the guests invited to both bring two gifts, one traditional (kitchen/home items) for the lunch-time shower and then something more "adult" (lingerie, toys, etc) for the evening's festivities?