Long story short: due to circumstances beyond my fiance and I's control, his mother, and therefore his entire immediate family, refuses to attend our wedding. Our reason that we will give our guests is that "She had a conflict," which is true in several ways!
My question is this: Is it necessary for mothers and grandmothers to be included in the pre-processional? We have both (me more than him) come to grips with the fact that his family will not be attending, but I don't want to rub it in his face that my family is all there/make it super obvious to the guests. The absense will be painful enough without rubbing salt on the wound and he's already missing out on things like dancing with his mother at the reception.
I'm torn on this... one the one hand, I understand that you want to honor them, etc, and that some people expect that. On the other hand, a lot of times people notice what is there, and not what's missing, as long as you make things appear natural.
Thoughts?