Thank you notes for no card or gift at wedding?

thochhal

Some people who attended the wedding did not leave a gift or even a card.  Do we send a thank you note for attending the wedding?  Some of them didn't even sign the guest book.  

erinlin25

etiquette technically says only send thank you's to those that gave a gift/card.  Otherwise you come across as gift-grabby just saying hey, thanks for being there--since technically the reception is the "thank you" for being there.  But, I see both ways.  I would say best bet is you know your guests and so you be the judge if they would take it the wrong way. 

I personally was grateful my friend sent me a thank you because the situation happened that we gave a card with a check that was not cashed-- I got suspicious of it being lost but did not want to hound her. A month or so after the wedding I got a thank you that did not mention the gift so it prompted me to ask about the check.  Turns out they did not get it, so I was glad i got the chance to get a new card and (check )gift to them. 

[Deleted User]

I'm going to send thank you's to guests who came but didn't give a card or gift. I just want to thank them for coming and being part of our special day.