My FI wants to choose his very good childhood friend to be in the WP, but his friend is currently deployed. He had brought it up to his friend (very briefly) basically just wondering if he would be deployed or home at the time of our wedding. His friend has no idea, which is completely understandable. However, FI says he wants to wait to ask him to be in the WP until the friend knows if he will be home. I think it's silly and FI should just ask him. I mean, it's not as if FI won't want him in the wedding if he is deployed, it's just that he couldn't be. The worst that can happen is he finds out he can no longer make it. I just don't want the friend to feel like an afterthought if FI waits too long to ask him, to which FI says "guys won't think that way." What do you ladies think?