Need to Vent

bethsmiles

My mother is driving me absolutely insane. Since BF graduated he has been job hunting. It's stressful but we are both staying positive about it and know that eventually he will get something. My mom has decided it is helpful for her to bombard me with e-mails about jobs for him. It's infuriating me. The majority of the jobs aren't even in BF's field and the ones that are he's already found on his own and applied to (because he is more than capable of using the internet to search for jobs, he's not stupid). All these e-mails are accomplishing is stressing me out - I can't really explain why except that I have pretty bad anxiety problems and the e-mails trigger it.

My mom has a really bad anger problem so confronting her about it really isn't worth it as she will just blow up. I just really need to vent.

desertsun

Ugh. Annoying! Sometimes you just have to know when to keep your mouth shut. Vent away! *hugs*

bethsmiles

Thank @desertsun, I just need to breathe and learn to just let it go but for some reason I really struggle with that!

Peaseblossom55

I'm sorry feel free to vent away.  Sending you hugs.  I would just delete her emails as soon as I get them and  not read them, the job related ones anyway. 

desertsun

Dude, it's hard when it's your family. I really struggle to keep my perspective when dealing with my family. Sometimes I have to ask a friend, "Am I being crazy here?" 

I don't think it's crazy to get upset when you feel like you're being condescended to. It's one of the things that really pushes my buttons. 

Just vent about it and realize it's HER issue. More about her than you or BF. You and BF know he's doing all the right things. So remind yourself that what she thinks doesn't matter, and try to let it go and move on. 

bethsmiles

Thanks @PeaseBlossom55

@desertsun - So true!

CLoGreenEyes

Ugh, I'm sorry she is driving you bananas, beth. *hugs* I gather from other posts that your mom isn't the easiest to get along with, but it sounds like she is at least trying to be helpful this time (albeit totally failing at it).

Take a breath and remember it's just text on a screen. Obviously your BF has his job-hunting situation under control, so your mom's emails are just junk in your inbox, nothing more significant. Try to keep it in perspective - although I can understand why it would be hard to take her interference lightly! Crossing my fingers that something pans out for your BF very soon, and that your mom gets bored of this hobby in the meantime

bethsmiles

@Amapola14 - I do think she is coming from a good place and doesn't realize she is driving me insane lol

I feel better about it now that I've vented a bit.

phira

"Mom, can you do me a favor? Can you put, 'Potential job for [boyfriend]' in the subject line? It makes it easier for me, so I know which emails are about jobs and I can search for them in my email inbox."

And then filter messages so any email from her with that in the subject line goes in a separate folder that you don't look at.

I think my head would explode from her being so annoying.