Wedding Etiquette Forum

Kid Free Wedding

My fiancé and I are not planning on inviting children to our wedding just because there are so many and our budget can't handle that. What is the correct way to word our request? I don't plan on it being on the invitation. I would like this information to be on out website and information for the website on  the invite.

Thanks!!

Re: Kid Free Wedding

  • No need for that. The invitation dictates who is invited. No kid on the invite, no kid at your wedding.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • Ditto PPs. It's not polite to indicate anywhere who isn't invited. Just address your invitations to the adults, and then you may have to make phone calls if they RSVP back with kids. 


    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
    image
  • My cousin did this and it spread by word of mouth through my grandmother and other family members. No need to put it in writing anywhere, you may be surprised how many people aren't surprised by no kids.

    Then again, some people are obtuse and you'll have to personally tell them no kids invited. But no, don't put it anywhere, it comes off a bit rude.
  • I wouldn't even put on your website that this is an adult only event.  You could put on the website the phone number of a potential child care provider the same way you would a recommended hotel, but that is as far as I would go.  Just make sure you have all of the parents of kids phone numbers so that if / when one of them RSVPs with kids that you can call them and explain.  NBD.
  • You leave the kids' names off the invitation.  If anyone RSVPs to include their kids, then you call them and let them know that the invitation was for the parents only and the kids cannot be accommodated.  If they threaten not to attend without the kids, you tell them, "I'm sorry to hear that; we'll miss you."  But you do not bend the rule for their kids or put "no kids" on the invitation.
  • My friends and fam would have written their kids in, so I had the response cards printed to say (blank) seats are reserved in your honor and of course those listed on the invite were the ones invited. We only had one problem with a mom being a jerk and not coming because her kids weren't invited. I was happy. She saved us $600! :)
    image
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards