Wedding Party

Having multiple MoH's

edited July 2013 in Wedding Party
I have a Maid of honor that just became a Matron of honor, and 4 bridesmaids. Has any of you heard of or seen the Bride's side with
1. All Maid/matron of honors with NO bridesmaids status   and/or
2. Two plus MoH's and some bridesmaids?


Re: Having multiple MoH's

  • I had 2 bridesmaids and no MOH. They all do the same thing anyway, so there's no real need to designate anyone THE CHOSEN ONE if you don't want to. And yes, you can also have 2 MsOH and the rest bridesmaids if you want. 

    It should not be up to you who throws parties. Anyone can throw a party for you; it doesn't have to be your MOH or even a member of the wedding party at all. You shouldn't have any hand in the planning of them. 




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  • You could have all bms or two or more MsOH. The MOH title is given to the person who is closest to you. It has nothing to do with throwing parties or helping you plan your wedding. The MOH isn't the boss of the bms. She also doesn't have dibs on the shower, except that she was the first to offer and you accepted. It would be okay, IMO, to tell the MOH that you would like her to include the bms in hosting and planning the shower, since they offered. Don't change their titles. 
                       
  • edited August 2013
  • It's really nice that she's trying to please you by asking you about themes, locations, etc...You should tell her it would mean a lot to you if she would allow those bms to help out with the shower. Whoever is hosting the shower is in charge of planning it, so you shouldn't TELL her to do anything. 
                       
  • I have two MsOH and one BM. The MsOH are my two best friends (who are very close themselves) and I could not imagine "choosing" one over the other. I never thought about not designating anyone as a MOH, but it just made sense for me to have both - I wouldn't want them to feel as though they weren't important enough to both have the title. As for the 1 BM, she is my fantastic younger sister (by 8 years) and isn't really old enough to be into talking wedding planning with me like my MsOH are. 
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  • I have 2 MOHs (my sister & my best friend) and 3 bridesmaids.  The MOHs are BOTH like sisters to me, and the bridesmaids are important to me but I wanted to make bff & sis feel extra important by giving them both that title.  I don't expect any particular one to do any specific planning for me, but I think it's nice that the 2 MOHs can share responsibilities if they want or need to.
  • I've decided to make my four best friends my maids/matrons of honor and my step-daughters my bridesmaids.  They're all thrilled with the idea.  I don't expect any of them to do specific jobs...just support us on our big day.  As for the license, we've decided to have the MOB and MOG sign as witnesses.  :)

     

  • I have 2 sisters and I'm having them both be maids of honor. It felt weird choosing one over the other. I will also have 3 bridesmaids
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  • I am considering having a man of honor and just BM. I want my BFF who is a guy stand besides me. He lives out of town but he has always been there for me no matter what. My BM all live here so basically they would both do MOH duties without having to give a toast.
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  • I am considering having a man of honor and just BM. I want my BFF who is a guy stand besides me. He lives out of town but he has always been there for me no matter what. My BM all live here so basically they would both do MOH duties without having to give a toast.
    MOHs don't have duties.



  • I have a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor.  Both ladies are so close and important to me, I can't image picking one over the other one.
  • I LOVE the idea of having a Maid and Matron of Honor. My sister and best friend are both important to me and I want them to feel special. I also plan on having 2 other bridesmaids. My only question is... and its something I'm concerned with myself... what if there is only one Best Man? Thoughts anyone??
  • Care6063 said:
    I LOVE the idea of having a Maid and Matron of Honor. My sister and best friend are both important to me and I want them to feel special. I also plan on having 2 other bridesmaids. My only question is... and its something I'm concerned with myself... what if there is only one Best Man? Thoughts anyone??
    Doesn't matter.

    Sides don't have to be even, and you don't have to pair people up in order to process in and out.  Frankly, that reminds me of Prom or something.

    The titles don't really mean anything and are honorary unless you are having a religious ceremony where you and your FI must each have a witness on the altar, or you need witnesses to sign your marriage license.  Otherwise, all the bridesmaids, MOHs, groomsmen, and Best Men all do exactly the same thing- walk in holding flowers/wearing boutonnieres, walk out, stand in pictures.

    Have as many close family and friends on your side as you want and have as many Maids and Matrons of Honor as you want.

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