Hi ladies, I know there is a similar post about this, but I wanted to know more of what the "rules of thumb" were for this. I have already established my guest list and am writing out invites. My mom thinks I need to invite her brother and his wife, who live half way across the country from us. She also is under the impression I need to invite one of my cousins. (also half way across the US). My only concerns are that if we invite them, they may come. And my guest list is being stretched a little already as it is, with people right here in the local area. My FI thinks we can not invite people planning on them to not show up. I tend to agree with this. Also, I don't want it to appear we are just "fishing for gifts". My cousin got married last summer, and i'm guessing she did not invite us because she was trying to keep her wedding small, and really didn't expect us to come.....help....