Since the moment we got engaged in April, my fiance has hinted to have a smaller, intimate wedding in which we run off with our immediate families, get married cheaply, get a little travel in, and then come back and just have a huge party to celebrate. Sometimes I like this plan. Most of the time I dont. He has only sort of mentioned it in passing...just as a suggestion, but never pushing it one way or another. He is sort of dismissive about the wedding process, wanting me to be happy and have what I want, etc. So we went ahead with a larger, more traditional wedding plan. Most of his complaints are that he is not very close to his family...I am. So thats been a little push and pull. I had a booking nightmare, planning this "big" (200ish people) wedding. We have a date set. We have a location. And now I dont even know what to do anymore.
He is afraid everything is too expensive. My parents are paying for literally almost the entire thing....Im having a hard time seeing his point here, as they WANT to do this for us. We are both the first children to be married in our families and its kind of a big deal. Part of me wants the big, family and friends wedding. The traditional lovely ceremony and fun, unique venue reception. How often do you have everyone you love together at once?? Part of me sees the financial aspect and can appreciate the intimacy of the runaway wedding concept...I just feel like it undervalues the WEDDING...you know? No involving our families, not having my best friends as my bridesmaids, not having my family or his in our wedding....it just makes me a little sad. But is it really financially a better move? I don't want to regret anything. Just today he started trying to talk me down off the planning pedestal....and I'm like WHERE WAS THIS MONTHS AGO?? UGHHH. I am just so frustrated and confused. Any advice would be amazing!