High Expectations (small vent)

Mbecker912

Hey fellow Brides I am a NYC bride and I am having a BIG Catholic wedding... I am only 100 days away and am starting to feel the stress of the big wedding I am one of 3 in my family getting married this year (my older cousins got engaged after me) but my wedding is the 2nd the 1st being in 2 weeks... Problem is my expectations from my family are huge I am having the biggest wedding and the only one in Church so my family is expecting more from my wedding it is just starting to really get stressful I want to make myself and My FI happy but i still dont want to disappoint you know what I mean... 

NYCBruin

Hi!  I'm also a NYC bride having a BIG Catholic wedding!  I totally hear you on the high expectations thing.  From the day we got engaged, people have been talking about how excited they are for our wedding and how "epic" it is going to be.  While I appreciate the sentiment, I totally hear you on the stress that it brings.

Just remember, all that really matters is that you and your FI will be married at the end of the day.

Weddings are a blast, I'm sure your family will have a great time!

I'd love to hear more about your wedding/you!

Jells2dot0

Having been a bride twice, I got to "re-do" some of the things that irritated me the most about my first wedding. I did the whole big wedding thing the first time around and there were MANY expectations, not to mention that I had to deal with divorced parents who each had their own set. Honestly, everyone forgot about everything once the wedding started. They'll be so caught up in the moment and seeing you enjoying your time that it will all go out the window.

FWIW, It's nice to have a big wedding the first time around, but honestly, one of the reasons I chose not to have another large wedding was because of family stress. There were MANY reasons I did what I did, but stress was a huge factor in my decision. Even though I knew it would go away during the big day, I didn't want to live with it leading up to it.

dalm0m

Breathe.  If you have all the peices in place -- a church, a nice meal, good music & an open bar you have given your family & friends all the things they need to have a great time.  If they don't, it's their fault not yours.  Think about how much you love your FI & how bright your future together is.  Smile & go have a have a good time.