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6 bridesmaids and 1 groomsmen?

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I have a big family and a lot of friends, my fiance does not.  I really don't want an uneven bridal party but I still want to include my girls in my special day? Any ideas on how to get the full bridal party experience without actually making them traditional bridesmaids?  I know that sounds confusing...
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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Don't worry about even sides. That's not a very nice reason to not include them. You'd really rather have pretty photos than have your best friends next to you? No one cares about even sides - you shouldn't either.

    The only honors in a wedding are wedding party or reader. Anything else is a chore. Just ask them to be bridesmaids.
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    Dreamergirl8812Dreamergirl8812 member
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    mrsririrod said:
    I have a big family and a lot of friends, my fiance does not.  I really don't want an uneven bridal party but I still want to include my girls in my special day? Any ideas on how to get the full bridal party experience without actually making them traditional bridesmaids?  I know that sounds confusing...
    It is not at all confusing because a lot of brides have this stupid idea that wedding parties should be "even."

    Your alternatives are appointing props on your FI's side (who will know exactly what they are, placeholders), or cutting out your nearest and dearest.

    And what the eff is the full bridal party experience? Are you saying you want them to shower you with gifts, parties and attention but you don't want to honor them at your wedding? Because you don't want your best friends in your pictures unless your FI adds groomsmen??



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    Yeah, what do you mean by "full bridal party experience"?  FI has more friends than me. I told him he's more than welcome to have all the groomsmen he wants. I'll be sticking with my 3.  This is not a big deal at all.  Cutting friends or giving them made up jobs so you can have even sides i silly.  Just include the girls you want!
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    Bubbles2014Bubbles2014 member
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    You can have uneven sides. It won't matter at all. If you want 6 bridesmaids then that is fine. If he only wants one friend on his side then that's fine. If you chose 1 friend to make even sides then that is fine, but don't find/make up any other positions for the 5 other girls.

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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Uneven sides are fine. 
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Uneven sides is perfectly fine and will have no bearing on the outcome of your wedding.  You ask who you want and your FI will ask who he wants.  If that means you have 6 BMs and he has only 1 GM then so be it.  At least you both will be happy with your choices and you will have your nearest and dearest next to you on your wedding day.

    And like Bubbles said, if even sides is that important that you decide to only ask 1 person to be on your side then don't make up random "roles" or "jobs" for the other 5 girls, just invite them to your wedding like a normal guest.

    Finally, H and I had an uneven wedding party.  He had 5 guys and I had 2 girls.  And guess what?  We still got married and had an amazing time and have some awesome ass pictures.


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    KatWAGKatWAG member
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    Uneven sides are fine. It wont ruin you pictures, or anything silly like that
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    QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    Another vote for not worrying about uneven sides.  Have your FI and his one groomsman up at the front already, and have the bridesmaids walk in single file. They don't need escorts. they know how to walk all by themselves, I'm sure.  And for the recessional, have the bridesmaids walk out single file, followed by the one gentleman. 

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    QueerFemme said:
    Another vote for not worrying about uneven sides.  Have your FI and his one groomsman up at the front already, and have the bridesmaids walk in single file. They don't need escorts. they know how to walk all by themselves, I'm sure.  And for the recessional, have the bridesmaids walk out single file, followed by the one gentleman. 
    This is exactly what I was going to suggest. Also, instead of all standing up there with you, you could have the whole wedding party seated in the front row (seriously, no bridesmaids/groomsman really likes standing up there anyway). 


    This has come up elsewhere, but I'm "not having a wedding party", meaning that I won't be having anyone walk down the aisle or stand up there or wear matching clothes. I will, however, have some girls that I'll be asking to do some pre-wedding stuff with me as my friends (you know, like get our nails done). Essentially, just think about what aspects of a bridal party really appeal to you, and go with that. 
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    doeydodoeydo member
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    You don't have to have the same number of attendants.  Don't feel like you have to exclude any of your friends. 
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