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Is this new thank you card etiquette.....

I have been to 4 weddings the past 2 months and have got a gift each time, but for one wedding everything on their registries was already purchase except huge ticket items (over $300), so i got a gift card which was also listed on the registries.  About 1 month after the wedding, I was excited to see a thank you card in the mail but also expected it because my friend is on top of things.  I opened it up and was shocked to see a typed generic letter from her... she said several times in the letter how she used our gift on her honeymoon. . . I am not mad at all about it, just puzzled if this is new thank you cards, more of a typed generic letter.... planning my wedding I guess I am just looking for some guidance.

Re: Is this new thank you card etiquette.....

  • This is a 'thing' for rude people. Don't take their lead. Hand written, genuine thank you notes sent within a month are always ideal. 
  • Nope, thank you card requirements haven't changed.  They're still supposed to be personal, hand written, and sent promptly.
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  • Harry87 said:
    I'm kind of confused by what you mean. First you say the thank-you was generic and typed, but then you say she specified that she put the gift to good use during her honeymoon. I guess that if it was a home good she wouldn't have specified anything about the honeymoon.



    By the tone of the letter, explaining her honeymoon trip (which they left the next day) so basically impossible for her to go to the store to purchase an item to use on her honeymoon.
  • NerdyLucyNerdyLucy member
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    I get you. As another poster mentioned in another thread, one of the new things I've been noticing with Thank You cards are where you're expected to address your own envelope. With the ones I've been to, they've usually been under the guise of being "tickets" for a drawing to win the last door prize, but essentially, you need to have address your own Thank You card en envelope to be in the drawing. It's bizarre. ETA: What the heck? I'm trying to space this out, but when I actually post the edited comment, it still turns out to be one blobby paragraph.

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  • Our invite list is roughly 500 people, but we intend on handwriting each and every thank you note.  It's what polite people do.  
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  • oh my 500 people!  We went to a wedding last night that had about that many guest!  It was so much fun! :) I plan to write all of mine too but my list is only 150 guest.
  • Mine will only be 20 so I can write a novel!

    Wow though, I'd be alittle annoyed as well. How do you put "we used it on our honeymoon" as a generic response anyways? What if they got a toaster!?
  • hmmm good point @elizabetheleven .... the whole letter was a novel about their honeymoon and the things they did and the first paragraph was saying thank you so much for coming for our special day and thank you for the gift we used it on our honeymoon.
  • jco619 said:

    hmmm good point @elizabetheleven .... the whole letter was a novel about their honeymoon and the things they did and the first paragraph was saying thank you so much for coming for our special day and thank you for the gift we used it on our honeymoon.


    Hah... well they didn't think that one through did they!?
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