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Our caterer suggested having sandwiches or other some kind of food made available for late in the night, not only just for more eating for those who stay for the whole event, but also so those who have been drinking have something more substantial than cake to eat before driving home. He said it's something he can provide (for an extra cost) or we can bring it in ourselves (stored in the venue's kitchen refrigerator). I think this is something that we'll actually do. I like the idea, plus for ME in case I don't eat enough during the day there will be something for me to eat. I get hemiplegic migraines and I know I'll be less likely to eat like I should and that could be a trigger and the LAST thing I want is a headache and trip to the er during my wedding/reception!

ANYWAY...has anyone done something similar? What did you serve? When is the best time to start pulling it out and making it available? The ceremony will start about 330pm, cocktails and apps immediately after, meal about 5ish (depending how long pictures take, could be sooner), reception ending between 12-1am.

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    Our meal is served at six, and then we have pizzas at 10pm.
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    CheleLyn said:
    Our caterer suggested having sandwiches or other some kind of food made available for late in the night, not only just for more eating for those who stay for the whole event, but also so those who have been drinking have something more substantial than cake to eat before driving home. He said it's something he can provide (for an extra cost) or we can bring it in ourselves (stored in the venue's kitchen refrigerator). I think this is something that we'll actually do. I like the idea, plus for ME in case I don't eat enough during the day there will be something for me to eat. I get hemiplegic migraines and I know I'll be less likely to eat like I should and that could be a trigger and the LAST thing I want is a headache and trip to the er during my wedding/reception!

    ANYWAY...has anyone done something similar? What did you serve? When is the best time to start pulling it out and making it available? The ceremony will start about 330pm, cocktails and apps immediately after, meal about 5ish (depending how long pictures take, could be sooner), reception ending between 12-1am.

    My cousin did Dick's burgers at her wedding (Seattle people). They were delivered around 10pm her reception started around 7pm (they did food stations, not necessary sit down or buffet), and reception ended at midnight guest count was 120.

    Our wedding we had cocktail hour start at 6:30 with passed apps, buffet dinner, and we did our getaway around 10:30 most guests left at 11pm. We had open bar the whole night. People were fine, no one got super wasted or anything. our guest count was closer to 200.

    Your reception is really long. I don't think people will stay 7 hours(5-midnight) for a reception. Honestly, I think most people start leaving after cake cutting if they aren't dancing, and even if they do dance, two hours of dancing is plenty.
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    We're serving milk and cookies (chocolate chip and French macarons, YUM) plus some vegetables. Probably around 10:30.
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    CheleLyn said:
    Our caterer suggested having sandwiches or other some kind of food made available for late in the night, not only just for more eating for those who stay for the whole event, but also so those who have been drinking have something more substantial than cake to eat before driving home. He said it's something he can provide (for an extra cost) or we can bring it in ourselves (stored in the venue's kitchen refrigerator). I think this is something that we'll actually do. I like the idea, plus for ME in case I don't eat enough during the day there will be something for me to eat. I get hemiplegic migraines and I know I'll be less likely to eat like I should and that could be a trigger and the LAST thing I want is a headache and trip to the er during my wedding/reception!

    ANYWAY...has anyone done something similar? What did you serve? When is the best time to start pulling it out and making it available? The ceremony will start about 330pm, cocktails and apps immediately after, meal about 5ish (depending how long pictures take, could be sooner), reception ending between 12-1am.

    My cousin did Dick's burgers at her wedding (Seattle people). They were delivered around 10pm her reception started around 7pm (they did food stations, not necessary sit down or buffet), and reception ended at midnight guest count was 120.

    Our wedding we had cocktail hour start at 6:30 with passed apps, buffet dinner, and we did our getaway around 10:30 most guests left at 11pm. We had open bar the whole night. People were fine, no one got super wasted or anything. our guest count was closer to 200.

    Your reception is really long. I don't think people will stay 7 hours(5-midnight) for a reception. Honestly, I think most people start leaving after cake cutting if they aren't dancing, and even if they do dance, two hours of dancing is plenty.
    **Dang quote box! The whole group won't stay the whole night, but most of our circle will. Even long after the dancing stops, people will stay til at least midnight. 
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    Apologies. Apologies. I think this may be a case of know your crowd.
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    No worries, all's good :)

    Some OOT'ers will leave earlier, but we know who those will be and some of them have already said they'll be getting a hotel room so they can stay in town a couple days. Jason's whole family and friends are REALLY looking forward to this wedding. Long story short...he's had cancer, a brain tumor, a cheating ex-wife (while he was getting cancer treatment), an ex who got into drugs (during his brain tumor period), and various crazy ex-girlfriends. I'm the NORMAL one that everyone loves LMAO. They're all super happy and excited for us. 
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    Our venue doesn't provide alcohol, so that'll be our call when to close it. I'm thinking 1030 for not tapping anymore kegs or opening new bottles.
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    I LOVE this idea, but it's totally up to you. I think a midnight sake of sliders, pizza, fries, etc would be fun!
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    The more food the better.  I know my friends too and they will hang until the bitter end - they will need snacks lol.  I love the idea of having burgers or pizzas delivered later in the evening if the venue allows it.

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    I would think about what you and your crowd normally eat/crave after a night of drinking (for me it's fast/junk food...Whataburger or tacos), and base your decision on that.

    eta: I don't know where you're located, but as a South TX girl, I'd be thrilled if someone provided some late-night breakfast tacos at the end of their reception...kind of like when parents make breakfast for everyone after prom (anyone else have that experience?)
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    We just went to a wedding that had soft pretzels and churros at the end of the night and it was a HUGE hit. Every one loved it. I think if you can afford it then go for it.
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    I answered you on Food and Cakes, but yes, a lot of people have begun doing "late night snacks"

    I'd serve it 1-1.5 hours before the end of the reception and serve something in the "junk food" category (pizza, fries, sliders, etc.).

     

     

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    We're doing a small tray of Primo's Hoagies toward the end of the night. 
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    We brought out nachos and chicken fingers at 9:30 and it was gone by 10.
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    I would be so excited for a late night sandwich at the end of dancing/drinking for hours on end.  Throw a little bag of chips in with it, and i'd be good to go.  If people are continuing the party at a hotel bar or other location, I think that would be a great place for it. 

    With regards to your migraines. . . . I actually have them too, with the thrilling, debilitating stroke like symptoms.  Even though you are an adult, I would still ask someone to make sure to remind you to eat and stay hydrated.  My wedding flew by last year, and if it hadn't been for my MOH bringing me constant water and reminding me to sit down for a few minutes to eat, I likely would have forgotten both.

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    My cousin's wedding last fall had a "street meat" cart outside at the end of the reception (~11:30 or so when the shuttles were leaving). Everyone at their sausages etc. on the bus back to the hotel.

    They're really into sports, specifically baseball, so it worked for them!
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    We are doing a taco/nacho bar at 9p. 
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
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    kaos16 said:

    I would be so excited for a late night sandwich at the end of dancing/drinking for hours on end.  Throw a little bag of chips in with it, and i'd be good to go.  If people are continuing the party at a hotel bar or other location, I think that would be a great place for it. 

    With regards to your migraines. . . . I actually have them too, with the thrilling, debilitating stroke like symptoms.  Even though you are an adult, I would still ask someone to make sure to remind you to eat and stay hydrated.  My wedding flew by last year, and if it hadn't been for my MOH bringing me constant water and reminding me to sit down for a few minutes to eat, I likely would have forgotten both.

    Absolutely! My frequency and intensity has really increased the last couple years, and they seem to go from "hmm, I better take something just in case" to "please someone take mercy and put me out of my misery" quicker. Fmil has made it her mission to be sure I eat and have enough of what I need to be well. It seems in the last year or so  that alcohol has become a trigger so I may very well just be sipping water all day/night...which is totally fine. Jason suggested just putting sprite in a champagne flute and pretending it's alcoholic. Fortunately, enough people are aware that I don't have friends saying "Come on, just have one drink with us" when we all get together, so I'm not worried about that at the wedding 
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    We had sliders, mini grilled cheese and fries. The Fries were in plastic champagne glasses that were filled with ketchup. Everyone loved it. Our family/friends are heavy drinkers so it was somewhat necessary for our group.

    If you can spring for it I would do it.

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    We served pizzas as a late-night snack.  Our dinner was served at 5:30, and pizza was served at 9:30.  Long receptions are common in our circle, too.  Our reception lasted from 4:00 until midnight, and there were several guests there until the end.  H's grandma left at 11:30, but only so she could get to the casino!
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    I've never been to a wedding that lasted less than 8 hours.  This may be a regional thing, because it seems to be the standard Ontario setup.

    Our ceremony is at 4 and we have the reception hall until 1 am.  Event though we are going to have a lot of food earlier in the day between a cocktail hour & 4 course meal, we are going to do pizzas and something else (FMIL's current favourite idea is a chocolate fountain) later in the evening, probably around 10:30 or 11.
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    I'm in Ontario too and that sounds like a pretty typical set up. 

    We will probably have ceremony around 3:30 and then have dinner served around 5/5:30 (punch and snacks in between for cocktail hour - veggie trays, fruit trays, cheese and crackers, etc)

    Around 10 pm we will likely bring out the "midnight buffet" which we are able to provide ourselves...   will again likely be veggie and fruit trays, some buns, cheeses and meats (and things to make sandwiches), some dessert squares, spinach dip etc..   


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    We are doing a taco/nacho bar at 9p. 


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    Kind of depends how much food is for dinner. I love me some late night munchies and my crowd drinks like fishes, but the most recent wedding I went to I didn't partake in the munchies because I was still overstuffed from dinner, lol.
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    More food is never a bad thing. I also wanted to add that you should spread the word (just by word of mouth) during the reception that more food is coming out later. If I was on the fence about staying/leaving, I would be persuaded to stay if more food was coming. Likewise, if I left a wedding and then later heard they brought out more fun food, I would be disappointed (not mad) that I had decided to leave.
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    Some of the venues offered things like this, I don't remember of not if ours does. What my aunts have started doing at family weddings is packing coolers with cheese and crackers, sandwiches and deli meats, etc. and having them back at the hotel for anyone who wants them - and anyone, usually the room is open and they've fed a bunch of the bride and grooms friends. 
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    More food is never a bad thing. I also wanted to add that you should spread the word (just by word of mouth) during the reception that more food is coming out later. If I was on the fence about staying/leaving, I would be persuaded to stay if more food was coming. Likewise, if I left a wedding and then later heard they brought out more fun food, I would be disappointed (not mad) that I had decided to leave.
    Ooooh...good idea, thanks :)
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    ashleyep said:
    Some of the venues offered things like this, I don't remember of not if ours does. What my aunts have started doing at family weddings is packing coolers with cheese and crackers, sandwiches and deli meats, etc. and having them back at the hotel for anyone who wants them - and anyone, usually the room is open and they've fed a bunch of the bride and grooms friends. 
    Our caterer/venue is open to us providing it ourselves, and that's pretty much what we were thinking of having.
    ~*~June 21, 2014~*~


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    Our caterer suggested this also, but we are having cocktail hour w/ passed apps from 7-8 followed by the reception from 8-11 - we are having a buffet/food stations for dinner, which will open at 8, and then a full dessert buffet which will begin when we cut the cake around 10.  So I think we're going to pass - it's not very long and we will have PLENTY of food.  Plus, 90% of guests are from out of town and the wedding is in the city - venue is no more than 2 blocks from any of the reserved hotel rooms.  No one will be driving anywhere, and if they're hungry for late night food there are dozens of options steps away from the reception.  We're treating everyone to light fare and cocktails the previous night, as well as brunch the following morning, so i think 3 meals is plenty.
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    I like this.  It's becoming pretty common in my circle of friends, food usually comes out around 10-10:30.  Great for those friends who like to drink.

    You don't need anything too heavy, small finger sandwhiches, nachos or fries like others have said.  Sometimes it's just desert bars

    Our venue is doing a popcorn bar, 3 different kinds of popcorn, a couple different salts, butters, and seasonings.  We're also having pizzas sent to the hospitality suite around 2ish from our favorite post-bar spot.  Knowing my family they'll be going until sun-up, so we thought it would be smart to give them something else. 

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