Hello everyone! I've been a long time lurker and first time poster.
I have a question re: gift giving in this particular situation. My friend from college is getting married next year. They have sent their STDs via email with their wedding site included. On the front page they say that they are having a ceremony, dinner and dessert, however that all guests should not expect an invite to all, rather, the majority of us will get invitations only to a dessert social. So the people invited to the ceremony are the only guests getting dinner.
I spoke with her before the site came out and she was telling me all about her plans and self proclaimed bridezilla tendencies. She will be inviting 200 people to the ceremony/dinner and an additional 150 (350 guests total) to the dessert reception. In this midst, I was informed that I am part of the group of "dessert reception only" group. Personally, this seems a bit gift grabby to me, but of course I and FI plan on attending to show our support for her and him. So my question is, if we are invited to this dessert reception only what is gift giving etiquette? What type of budget would be appropriate for all gifts (engagement, shower and wedding)? Thank you all so much for your help!!