My daughter's wedding was this past weekend. We paid the catering company, in addition to the food and setup costs, an additional $17.50 per server per hour, for 8 servers for 8 hours, to the tune of $1000+. Keep in mind this is a buffet, no serving is going on anywhere. Guests went to the bar and got their drinks, went through the buffet line, etc. Yet when I returned items to the catering shop in Monday morning, the caterer asked "what is this - full of tips? " We aren't wealthy, just middle class self employed people, that paid over $5000 to the catering company for our 200 guests. In addition to the monies we paid the catering company, should we have also tipped each of the 8 servers?