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Non-Wedding Guest Invited to Bachelorette Party

Hello!

I've recently been invited to a friend's bachelorette party. I pretty excited because I haven't seen her in ages, and it was nice to be contacted by her friend to ask me to come along. But, after thinking about it, I realized I hadn't been invited to the wedding. I know it's not proper etiquette to invite people to wedding parties that haven't been invited to the wedding, but what would you think if you were in my situation? I feel like it would be shallow of me to be a bit annoyed for being invited to the bachelorette and not the wedding, but it is bad etiquette. Would you go?

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    I would be annoyed, but if the bachelorette sounded fun to me I'd go and have a good time. No sense in cutting off your nose to spite your face.
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    I'd skip it, especially considering you will probably be expected to chip in for her expenses.  However, unless she provided the bach guest list, I wouldn't hold it against her.

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    Hello!

    I've recently been invited to a friend's bachelorette party. I pretty excited because I haven't seen her in ages, and it was nice to be contacted by her friend to ask me to come along. But, after thinking about it, I realized I hadn't been invited to the wedding. I know it's not proper etiquette to invite people to wedding parties that haven't been invited to the wedding, but what would you think if you were in my situation? I feel like it would be shallow of me to be a bit annoyed for being invited to the bachelorette and not the wedding, but it is bad etiquette. Would you go?

    I wouldn't be annoyed too much, but I wouldn't go. I don't think it's a big deal if she didn't give the invite list and it doesn't sound like the host are doing it on purpose.
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    I'd skip it, especially considering you will probably be expected to chip in for her expenses.  However, unless she provided the bach guest list, I wouldn't hold it against her.

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    Grumbledrore said it! Explain to the hostess that you were not invited to the wedding and would feel out of place at the bachelorette.
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    Are you sure invites went out already?
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    I would explain to the hostess that you weren't invited to the wedding (as long as you know invites have gone out) and it wouldn't be appropriate for you to attend but thank her for the invitation.
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    skip it! 
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    I vote "skip it"
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    edited August 2013
    Thanks for the input, everyone! I do think we're going to be chipping in for her costs, because they'll be staying overnight in London for two nights. I'm still thinking, but it's probably going to be a 'no'.
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    She's asking you to join her for good time together and not asking for gifts or money.

    If you're excited about going, then go. It's against etiquette and she should only be inviting those invited to the wedding, but I'm guessing she's not intending to offend you.


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