Maid of dis-honor...

Bookie7

I asked one of my best friends to be my MOH.  She was super excited at first, then about a week later, everything was about her.  She has made almost every wedding planning/ bridesmaid event about herself.  If I talk about anything wedding related, she changes the topic to her.  One of my bridesmaids talked to her about this and it stopped for a while.....

 

The maids all threw me a shower and took me out for my bachelorette party (Brewers baseball game).  It was awesome!  Then my MOH struck again... took me away from half the game so she could stand in line for food (she didn't even want, just to use a $10 voucher).  I stayed overnight at her house, cause I couldn't drive home after the game.  She ended up yelling at me because I don't like small childern (which is not a secret, nor has it ever been).  So she left even a perfect evening that was all about me, with a bad taste in my mouth.

I have spoken to her about how I feel, and she is still arguing her point/ making excuses.  What should I do?  I'm almost to the point where I don't even want her around me.

Xstatic3333

I would say it sounds like you two need some space from each other. Also, not to sound harsh, but how did she make you stand in the food line?

I'd take some space, and when you do hang out, don't talk wedding. She may just be over wedding talk.

southernbelle0915

Bookie7 said:

I asked one of my best friends to be my MOH.  She was super excited at first, then about a week later, everything was about her.  She has made almost every wedding planning/ bridesmaid event about herself.  If I talk about anything wedding related, she changes the topic to her.  One of my bridesmaids talked to her about this and it stopped for a while.....

 

The maids all threw me a shower and took me out for my bachelorette party (Brewers baseball game).  It was awesome!  Then my MOH struck again... took me away from half the game so she could stand in line for food (she didn't even want, just to use a $10 voucher).  I stayed overnight at her house, cause I couldn't drive home after the game.  She ended up yelling at me because I don't like small childern (which is not a secret, nor has it ever been).  So she left even a perfect evening that was all about me, with a bad taste in my mouth.

I have spoken to her about how I feel, and she is still arguing her point/ making excuses.  What should I do?  I'm almost to the point where I don't even want her around me.

So when you talk wedding with her, she talks about herself. I would stop talking wedding with her. There's nothing you NEED to communicate to her about the wedding other than what dress to wear and when to show up. 

As far as the baseball game, I don't get how someone can make you stand in line for food. You could have left. And when you say you "couldn't drive home" I assume you meant because you were drunk. Not her fault. I don't get why she'd yell at you (unprovoked) about not liking children. That seems odd. 

What's good about this is that you have control to fix everything. Some brides don't have as much control of their circumstances as you do! Stop talking wedding with her and don't hang out with her for a while. Problem solved.

Bookie7

For the shower, I got to pick my food first.

The wedding is two months away, at this point.  I just thought the maid of honor would/should be excited for the bride and actually want to help with the wedding planning.

Bookie7

Good point.  I should have just walked away, left her in line, and not include her in anything wedding besides telling her what dress to wear and when to show up. 

I guess I just thought my maid of honor would actually want to be there for me and help.  Maybe that is just not how weddings work.

KeptInStitches

Mantra: No one will ever be as excited about your wedding as you are.

Explanation: It's an event in her world. It's the center of yours.

Bookie7

Very true.