XP - Changing jobs 7 months from wedding day?

soontobemrsbuccheri

This was cross posted in March 2014 Weddings:

I have been tossing around the possibility of changing jobs recently and have been sending out my resume to local businesses that have positions available in my line of work.  I just got off the phone with a potential new employer and have set up an interview for Thursday evening after I get out of my current job. I'm excited because the aspects of the position that I am interviewing for, is right up my alley.  Multi-tasking, computer work, management, etc.  While there will be a longer commute (35-45 minutes) than my current commute (15-20 minutes), the pay is greater than the measly peanuts that I'm making now.  

After discussing the position and getting details on salary ranges (mid/high 30k - low 40k yearly), it would be a giant step in the right direction for me.  Not to mention, my wallet, household bills, wedding bills, FI, DS, and dogs would thank me.  I would be able to help out MORE and still have money left over...rather than living pay check to paycheck, pinching every penny that I bring in.  I'm sure I'd still be a penny pincher, but still...it would be nice to see money, still in the bank, 2 days after pay day.  

Only worry I have is this - I didn't disclose that I am in getting married in 7 months.  It really isn't any of their business until they actually offer me a job.  I did say that I had taken the first week of September off (FI is having his wisdom teeth removed), but that would only help THEM if they offer me the job because then I wouldn't have to take the full week off....just one day for his surgery.  I'm sure they'll ask if I have any future dates that I would need to take off for....but March is 7 months away.  Do I disclose that now or wait?  Part of me thinks it should be mentioned since, even though we're not going on a honeymoon, I am taking a partial day on Thursday, and the entire day the Friday before and possibly the Monday after the wedding.  

Is it ok to change jobs 7 months from our wedding day? Is it a wise move or something I should stay away from?  I mean, this opportunity may not present itself later down the line......

LavenderHoneyBee

7 months? Um yeah it's okay. Of course it is. 7 months is a big difference. This isn't one month we're talking here.

PandPMeant2B

I relocated and started a new job in April and my wedding is next week. I told them during my second interview (I made it a point to say I wasn't trying to be presumptuous) and they were fine with it.  I won't get paid for all of the time I'm taking off (2 weeks), but they were very understanding and accommodating. 

nikole712

It sounds like a great opportunity for you. I would just wait until you get a second interview and phrase it like the PP. I am sure they would be fine giving you the few days off for your wedding even if you had to take it unpaid.

soontobemrsbuccheri

Like I said, I'm ecstatic.  I talked it over with FI and he said lets see what happens.  He said he'll be more excited once I get a job offer. He doesn't like "what-if's" when it comes to jobs.  He's been extremely supportive the last year and a half while I dealt with the negativity and the way my boss treats me.  I don't appreciate the way that I'm treated at all and it doesn't seem to phase my boss at all.  I'm looking forward to starting something new that will challenge me and keep me on my toes, rather than do the same tasks every day.  

Thank you for all your advice. ) I will go in with a smile and be confident...but not overly confident. ) 

LissyM83

As someone who works in HR, 7 months is a significant amount of time. There's no need to disclose your wedding information until you're extended an offer. Once they extend an offer, I would be upfront about it then and bring it to their attention (i.e. Thank you for the opportunity... I'm excited to join the company but wanted to let you know that I'm getting married in XX month and will need time off for wedding and honeymoon. I hope this won't be an issue.) Good luck!

soontobemrsbuccheri

LissyM83 said:

As someone who works in HR, 7 months is a significant amount of time. There's no need to disclose your wedding information until you're extended an offer. Once they extend an offer, I would be upfront about it then and bring it to their attention (i.e. Thank you for the opportunity... I'm excited to join the company but wanted to let you know that I'm getting married in XX month and will need time off for wedding and honeymoon. I hope this won't be an issue.) Good luck!

I figured as much.  I have experience as an HR Administrator and have had the same issue with new hires, I just have never had to disclose that type of info ever (other than my son's first day of kindergarten almost 7 years ago).  I have fingers crossed that I'm blessed with this opportunity.  The woman I spoke with (director of HR and director of operations) said that out of all the resumes she had received, mine had a lot of the key things she was looking for.  I'm sure this was just a ploy to get me to come in for an interview, but maybe not.  

Thanks so much!

Giaspo

LissyM83 said:

As someone who works in HR, 7 months is a significant amount of time. There's no need to disclose your wedding information until you're extended an offer. Once they extend an offer, I would be upfront about it then and bring it to their attention (i.e. Thank you for the opportunity... I'm excited to join the company but wanted to let you know that I'm getting married in XX month and will need time off for wedding and honeymoon. I hope this won't be an issue.) Good luck!

This. I'm in HR as well and couldn't agree more with @lissym83. Also, I changed jobs the first week of July and got married the first week of September. I disclosed this after I was extended the offer amd offered to take my honeymoon unpaid if I had to. It was nuts, and good organization helped tremendously. Do everything you can way in advance so you won't be derailed at work. Good luck!

soontobemrsbuccheri

Giaspo said:

LissyM83 said:

As someone who works in HR, 7 months is a significant amount of time. There's no need to disclose your wedding information until you're extended an offer. Once they extend an offer, I would be upfront about it then and bring it to their attention (i.e. Thank you for the opportunity... I'm excited to join the company but wanted to let you know that I'm getting married in XX month and will need time off for wedding and honeymoon. I hope this won't be an issue.) Good luck!

This. I'm in HR as well and couldn't agree more with @lissym83. Also, I changed jobs the first week of July and got married the first week of September. I disclosed this after I was extended the offer amd offered to take my honeymoon unpaid if I had to. It was nuts, and good organization helped tremendously. Do everything you can way in advance so you won't be derailed at work. Good luck!

Thank you so much @Giapso.  I appreciate the advice you and @LissyM83 have given me.  I have my interview tonight at 5:30 and I have been preparing for it all morning.  I have NO clue what I'm going to wear, but I'm sure the right outfit will jump out at me when I look in my closet.  

While my main worry has been eased thanks to all of the lovely knotties.  I really thought my getting married was a deal breaker.  But after reading what everyone has said, and thinking about everything, a company would be silly to not hire someone who is 7 months away from their big day.  It's not like I am overwhelmed with wedding planning that it's overtaken my daily life.  I'm so laid back and at ease with what I'm doing so that I do not become "bridezilla."  

Thank you again.  Wish me luck!

LissyM83

soontobemrsbuccheri said:

Giaspo said:

LissyM83 said:

As someone who works in HR, 7 months is a significant amount of time. There's no need to disclose your wedding information until you're extended an offer. Once they extend an offer, I would be upfront about it then and bring it to their attention (i.e. Thank you for the opportunity... I'm excited to join the company but wanted to let you know that I'm getting married in XX month and will need time off for wedding and honeymoon. I hope this won't be an issue.) Good luck!

This. I'm in HR as well and couldn't agree more with @lissym83. Also, I changed jobs the first week of July and got married the first week of September. I disclosed this after I was extended the offer amd offered to take my honeymoon unpaid if I had to. It was nuts, and good organization helped tremendously. Do everything you can way in advance so you won't be derailed at work. Good luck!

Thank you so much @Giapso.  I appreciate the advice you and @LissyM83 have given me.  I have my interview tonight at 5:30 and I have been preparing for it all morning.  I have NO clue what I'm going to wear, but I'm sure the right outfit will jump out at me when I look in my closet.  

While my main worry has been eased thanks to all of the lovely knotties.  I really thought my getting married was a deal breaker.  But after reading what everyone has said, and thinking about everything, a company would be silly to not hire someone who is 7 months away from their big day.  It's not like I am overwhelmed with wedding planning that it's overtaken my daily life.  I'm so laid back and at ease with what I'm doing so that I do not become "bridezilla."  

Thank you again.  Wish me luck!

Good luck! What type of interview is this for? Do you have a dark suit? If so, I'd wear that. Otherwise, you can't go wrong with a blazer, button down and dress pants. If a company won't hire you b/c you're getting married in 7 months, it's not a place you want to be at anyway