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Guns, Ammo, and a Dish to Pass

LakeR2014LakeR2014 member
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edited August 2013 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?

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    LakeR2014 said:
    So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

    A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

    NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?

    Aside from the dish to pass...this could be kind of fun if the groom/bride are hunt/gun club members.

    The whole potluck reception thing is never okay no matter where you live.

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    This is not a Southern thing...it is a redneck thing.  Eww.
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    I always see potluck as poor form for a wedding reception.

    The shooting?  I love to shoot and with the price of ammo at such a ridiculous high it just isn't something I get to do for fun.  I think the biggest issue with the shooting is that it would preoccupy the guests and keep them from any dancing/wedding festivity type stuff.  If my circle was invited to a gun range for a wedding, I can promise you we would want to shoot  and it would turn into "just one more clip.  I promise, just one more clip."

    I am (and always have been) from "The North" and have never heard of something like this before.  We just lost many great regs  here that are from "The South" and always talked about proper manners, hosting properly, just treating people as you should.  I hate it when people do the "Ya know you're in the South when..." 
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    Eeek. That sounds not only tacky, but scary, to me. 
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    The potluck and passing the dish are etiquette violations.

    The gun thing is not my cuppa, but I can let it pass.
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    I've got no problem with the gun range. Maybe that's what they're doing instead of the "wedding-y" stuff (dancing, etc.). The potluck/dish to pass bothers me a lot more because they're not hosting their guests.
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    The pot luck is tacky.

    The gun range would be something my fiance would LOVE. 
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    This isn't a Southern thing. It's a rude thing. Even if it were common in the South, it's horribly rude.

    And it's a dangerous thing. Guns + Alcohol + Party + Children = Recipe for disaster. 
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    rmaynar said:
    This is not a Southern thing...it is a redneck thing.  Eww.

    Yeah, how dare somebody make different lifestyle choices than the ones you make!
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    LakeR2014 said:
    So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

    A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

    NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?
    Tiered reception and potluck is not cool. I think there is a time and place for a gun range and shooting (bachelor/ bachelorette party) but the wedding is not it. Regardless of your stance on guns.

    Replace gun range with rollerskating rink/ paintballing/ public swimming pool/ bowling alley.
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    Definitely not a "southern thing." However, the gun range reception totally sounds like something my SIL would want to do if she ever decides to get married. Not my idea of fun, but she would love it!

    As for the potluck reception - No. Just. No.
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    I find the gun range just as inappropriate as Kareoke, hiring a dance troupe to perform, or having a rodeo. And the couple isn't even covering the cost of using it for their "guests?". Rude.
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    I would stay far away...
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    I can see gun range for a bachelor/rette party. I can see gun range if both couple and families are big in hunting or law enforcement. But potluck? ugh. No. You don't have your friends come out and not only spend money on ammo (even for those who own guns, ammo is not cheap! Especially for handguns these days, you're looking at 30-40 bucks for 50 rounds), but bring a dish to share...

    Where the heck is Pele or Muppet when something like this shows up? Have they left already?

    OP- please, please, please post photos when this goes down upon their appearance in your newsfeed!

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    Will alcohol be served? That'd be my biggest issue with a gun range reception.
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    I can't imagine a gun range would let you bring alcohol in. That just seems like safety 101.
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    ChellaTimsChellaTims member
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    edited August 2013

    All I want to know is what does the grooms cake look like! I personally have never heard of this happening and I know a very few people that could pull off such an event with class but it's not the norm down here.

    I had to edit! In my day to day life the only time we have potluck is at church when we have dinner on the grounds, at work in spring/summer to share our home grown veggies and maybe at holiday's but that's usually not done either. It would be frowned on to have your guest have to bring or pay for anything at your reception. That's the biggest discord between my fiance, from Milwaukee, WI, and myself, Alabama.

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    zitiqueen said:
    rmaynar said:
    This is not a Southern thing...it is a redneck thing.  Eww.

    Yeah, how dare somebody make different lifestyle choices than the ones you make!
    Coming from the south, and having a fair share of rednecks in my family, I just thought I would clarify that yes, there is a difference.  

    Maybe I should have also clarified that being redneck isn't "eww," but making people bring food and pay for their own entertainment at a reception someone else is hosting certainly is.
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    I can't imagine a gun range would let you bring alcohol in. That just seems like safety 101.
    But shooting shit is so much more fun when you're drunk!

    No, it isn't a southern thing. It is a rude thing. Ever hear the phrase southern hospitality? That is a southern thing, not asking your guests to bring their own food and pay for their own entertainment.
    LOL!  I almost spit iced tea on my computer monitor!
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    Does this all go along with "hold my beer and watch this"?
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    Awesome.
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    I love how people always go straight for the 'redneck' classification when something that happens in the South is tacky. I've lived in New England, the Midwest, and the South and there are rednecks everywhere. Thanks a lot, Jeff Foxworthy. You don't have to have a twang to be a redneck.
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    Coming from the south, and having a fair share of rednecks in my family, I just thought I would clarify that yes, there is a difference.  

    Maybe I should have also clarified that being redneck isn't "eww," but making people bring food and pay for their own entertainment at a reception someone else is hosting certainly is.

    As a fellow Southerner, I agree. 
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    I'm from south Florida and no that's not the norm but people do the "pot-luck" thing every where. As for the gun range thing I've never heard of that.
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    huynhette said:
    LakeR2014 said:
    So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

    A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

    NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?
    Tiered reception and potluck is not cool. I think there is a time and place for a gun range and shooting (bachelor/ bachelorette party) but the wedding is not it. Regardless of your stance on guns.

    Replace gun range with rollerskating rink/ paintballing/ public swimming pool/ bowling alley.
    Not something I would do, but why are any of those other things more appropriate places for a reception?  But the potluck... just no.  My main issues with it are the potluck and that they won't be supplying the ammo.
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    My main issue, other than the potluck and not supplying ammo which have been covered, is how exclusive this would be. If absolutely everyone invited would like to shoot (which I doubt), that's one thing, but the people who don't want to are going to have a hard time of mingling and chatting. Guns are super noisy, so unless this is a huge place with a hall far enough away and some serious soundproofing, those who don't participate are going to have a hard time enjoying themselves. 
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    rmaynar said:
    This is not a Southern thing...it is a redneck thing.  Eww.
    Yes ma'am. Preach it.

    Please don't confuse the two. BIG difference, lol.
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    gpeeples said:
    huynhette said:
    LakeR2014 said:
    So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

    A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

    NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?
    Tiered reception and potluck is not cool. I think there is a time and place for a gun range and shooting (bachelor/ bachelorette party) but the wedding is not it. Regardless of your stance on guns.

    Replace gun range with rollerskating rink/ paintballing/ public swimming pool/ bowling alley.
    Not something I would do, but why are any of those other things more appropriate places for a reception?  But the potluck... just no.  My main issues with it are the potluck and that they won't be supplying the ammo.
    I get my original post was unclear. My example was just to show that all those places could be appropriate to have as an outing for a bachelor/bachelorette party, but not necessarily a wedding.
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    huynhette said:

    gpeeples said:
    huynhette said:
    LakeR2014 said:
    So....I have to put this on here as it showed up in my FB feed yesterday as a 'Ya know you're in the South when...' type of thing, and I just have to ask if this is a typical thing.

    A friend posted a picture of a wedding invite they received (yes that was tacky) where on the invite it noted the reception would be at a Gun Range and all were welcome to bring their guns to shoot at the reception, or if they paid $$ they could rent a gun and purchase ammo to join in the fun.   Each guest was also asked to bring a dish to pass.   

    NOTE:  This was on a legit wedding invite, like formal writing, reception card, etc.  It was not just a FB post.    Anyone from the south...is this typical?
    Tiered reception and potluck is not cool. I think there is a time and place for a gun range and shooting (bachelor/ bachelorette party) but the wedding is not it. Regardless of your stance on guns.

    Replace gun range with rollerskating rink/ paintballing/ public swimming pool/ bowling alley.
    Not something I would do, but why are any of those other things more appropriate places for a reception?  But the potluck... just no.  My main issues with it are the potluck and that they won't be supplying the ammo.
    I get my original post was unclear. My example was just to show that all those places could be appropriate to have as an outing for a bachelor/bachelorette party, but not necessarily a wedding.
    Ohh okay, got it.  I was confused, like "why would you have a reception at a public pool?"  Hahah
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