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Is it ok to only invite some kids to our wedding?

Originally, I had planned on having an adults only reception.  However, I have realized that my fiancé's 2 half brothers and half sister will not be able to attend if we do not invite their children (6 kids in total ranging in age from 6 -15). They are all from many states away and do not have family where they live to leave their children with.   It is not an option to invite all children as that would add about another 30 people to our guest list and we are already about where we wanted to be.  Is it ok to only invite my fiancé's nieces and nephews and not invite other children? 

Re: Is it ok to only invite some kids to our wedding?

  • I think it is perfectly fine.  We are being selective with the kids we invite.  Family and very close friends kids.  We are not inviting the kids that we don't know. 

     

  • If you don't have any nieces and nephews than yes - if you do then you must invite them too :-) It is completely acceptable to only invite nieces and nephews of the B&G and no other children. You just can't start picking and choosing past that without hurting feelings. And I would think everyone would expect you to want your nieces and nephews at your wedding as they are immediate family.
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  • What @photokitty said.
    I think if you invite in groups its ok. Nieces and nephews. Siblings kids, then half siblings kids, etc. I think the problem is when you let one friend bring their kids but don't invite another friend's kids because they are brats or something.
  • I don't have any nieces or nephews, and we would be inviting all of my fiancé's nieces and nephews. I thought it was ok too, since they are immediate family; but my fiancé's sister told me today she thinks people will get angry.  The majority of the other kids would be 2nd cousins and my friend's children.  The only other child I was going to invite was my maid of honor's son, but she already told me she's not going to bring him, so it will be just immediate family.  Thanks for the help!

  • Yup - nothing wrong with that. 
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  • If you're inviting JUST nieces and nephews, you're totally fine.
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  • I think it's fine to invite just nieces and nephews or just OOT kids.
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  • Children are no different than any other category of guest.  You don't have to invite every coworker, church family member, or neighbor.  You do NOT have to invite every kid if you go past nieces and nephews.  If parents get bent out of shape about that it is because they are being entitled.
  • You can invite just family kids, that's perfectly acceptable.
  • You're fine with only inviting nieces and nephew. It is when their are unclear cutoffs is when people get angry. 
  • Thanks so much for all of your input!  I feel a lot more confident in my decision just to invite nieces and nephews.
  • I'm only inviting the kids close to me. My nephew and my cousins' kids. That's it. the end. The rest is 18+.
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  • It's okay to only invite family kids.  That's what I plan to do.
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