No thank you note

CrazyCatLady3

I sent a gift (from registry) in May for a June wedding.  Haven't received a TY note yet.  I want to make sure they received the gift.  Would it look like I am calling the couple out for not sending a TY if I email to make sure they got the gift?

itzMS

CrazyCatLady3 said:

I sent a gift (from registry) in May for a June wedding.  Haven't received a TY note yet.  I want to make sure they received the gift.  Would it look like I am calling the couple out for not sending a TY if I email to make sure they got the gift?

Wait 2 months after the wedding (if it hasn't been 2 full months yet), and go ahead and email. I've done this before, and it turns out the packing slips sometimes do not indicate the sender (Target was/is notorious for this).

Though you probably could just get delivery confirmation from the store you shipped it from...

 

NYCBruin

Oh this is a tricky one.

This is one of the reasons it's important to send TY notes, people!

If there's another way to track whether it was delivered, I would try that route first.  If not, I think it's fine to email them.

CrazyCatLady3

Well UPS tracking says delivered.  I also included a gift message with my name, so they should have known even if it didn't say on the packing list...so they either got it and haven't sent a TY note, someone stole it from their front doorstep and they didn't get it, or they got it and the gift message was missing....?

 

RedJacks25

If it says it's delivered, I'd just assume it was delivered and they haven't gotten around to sending a TY note yet.

Sharpschruter22

I know thank yous should be sent out immediately after the wedding, but E states you have 3 months to send it before being considered rude. I went on our honeymoon immediately after the wedding, then moved several states away after the wedding. It took me 2 months to get them out and I had two people ask if I got their gift. I found it to be obnoxious since I knew they were fishing for their thank you (which had gone out two days before.)
Give them a full three months before you ask.

melbelleup

If you know anyone else that attended the wedding, I would ask them first if they got TY notes. If they didn't, most likely the bride hasn't sent them out yet. My advice is give it a little more time, then ask.

Sharpschruter22

scribe95 said:

I'm sure they found it obnoxious that you didn't send your thank you notes out promptly.

2 months is prompt and completely acceptable.

itzMS

CrazyCatLady3 said:

Well UPS tracking says delivered.  I also included a gift message with my name, so they should have known even if it didn't say on the packing list...so they either got it and haven't sent a TY note, someone stole it from their front doorstep and they didn't get it, or they got it and the gift message was missing....?

 

I did, too. It never printed or wasn't included. I think that's happened to me twice.

Give them two months...and email to check.

Sharpschruter22

I sent out thank yous to every gift we received prior to the wedding, before the wedding. Since we had a destination wedding, went on a nearly 2 week honeymoon, moved several states away immediately after, and didn't even receive our gifts til a month after since so many guests brought gifts with them to the wedding (which had to be split up in different cars and brought down to us the next time my parents visited) is justified, not lazy. You can think whatever you want but the majority of the etiquette world does not agree with you. I'm finished entertaining you now.