We have had the incredible fortune of lots of family and friends offering to give us showers. We aren't having a huge wedding, we are inviting about 225 and expect that about 180 will be the final number.
I feel like it's rude to tell people no when they seem so intent on wanting to throw us a party but we definitely don't want so many parties that people are being invited to multiple, that seems greedy to us as well. Is it incredibly rude to say thanks but no thanks to people giving you parties? Or would it be ok to suggest that some of them host a single party together? Any advice is appreciated!