Welcome Bag for non-guest

Xstatic3333

Our adorable flower girls are the daughters of two good friends who are both in the WP. On their own, they arranged for the girls to be picked up by their grandma, who is not an invited guest, after dinner. Today, I found out that the grandma booked a room in our room block, which I am assuming she and the FGs will be heading back to to sleep. We are planning on having welcome bags for our guests when they check in. Is it awkward if the grandma receives one? Other than the shuttle schedule there won't be anything too wedding-oriented in it, just lots of snacks.

Jen4948

It would be an unnecessary but nice gesture.

itzMS

I think that would be nice. Just remove the wedding shuttle schedule. Could you also arrange with the hotel to have a movie rental for her room paid for? That's certainly above and beyond, but she and the girls would probably be thrilled!

southernbelle0915

Meh - I probably wouldn't. I like the idea of arranging for a movie if you have time to arrange it. Otherwise, I doubt they'll miss it.

kaos16

I think it would be both nice and generous of you to do something for her and the girls.  Maybe a movie rental and some movie snacks instead of the traditional OOT bag.

Xstatic3333

I like the movie rental idea! Follow-up question: if the check-in people accidentally gave her just a normal welcome bag that wouldn't be rude, would it? My earlier conversations with the hotel implied they would just be grabbing random bags for everyone in our block. However, they are pretty friendly so I think they'd be willing to work with me.

southernbelle0915

I'm sure they'll work with you. Or don't have them on the welcome bag list and then have your special goody bag delivered to their room. Instead of you dealing with this on wedding day, I'm sure someone could help arrange for this.

Simply Fated

It seems like such a consolation prize. I think if she was a paid baby sitter, I'd like the idea of giving them stuff, like a movie rental or what ever. Otherwise, I think it comes off as... "you weren't invited to the wedding, but here's some stuff, instead..."

Xstatic3333

Simply Fated said:

It seems like such a consolation prize. I think if she was a paid baby sitter, I'd like the idea of giving them stuff, like a movie rental or what ever. Otherwise, I think it comes off as... "you weren't invited to the wedding, but here's some stuff, instead..."

Yeah that's what I was afraid of. I'll touch base with my BM and see what she thinks her MIL would prefer. I don't know her at all so it might not be that awkward-she's definitely not a friend's parent that would have been included on a larger guest list.

Abbyjensen

I've attended a wedding as a babysitter before and would be happy to get one. I was paid, but this is a relative of your BM, not a personal relative of yours. A normal goodie bag would be fine, but a special movie rental or different goodie bag would also be nice.

Teddy917

I agree with PPs about the movie idea. Maybe even order a pizza (if you do it from Dominos, you could have them write on the box. Like "Thanks for being my flower girls.")
I have a question though. Are the flower girls not attending the reception by your choice or by their parents choice?