MOH Wants to Bring Her Kids

crunchymamaof2

Jen4948 said:

acove2006 said:

@jen4948 I don't know why you are so against babies and feel they're the ones that will ruin a wedding. What about the old man who farts so bad you need a gas mask? What about the women with allergies who sneezes every 5 seconds? The pair of 13 year old girls who sit and whisper throughout the whole ceremony? Anyone can "ruin" a wedding (I say "ruin" because I don't believe that type of stuff ruins anything). As a guest you just have to hope the other guests have enough common sense to remove themselves when necessary and to be courteous. So yes, some parents, and other guests, aren't that smart or nice, but most are IMO. If you're so worried about your experience being ruined I wonder why you'd go at all.

The issue is that if the bride and groom didn't want to invite any children, regardless of how old they are, then that's their right.  Regardless of whose children they are, how old they are, how well-behaved they are, and if there's anyone else to take care of them.

If you read the whole thread, many others also take this position. 

So stop trying to make this "my issue" or wonder why I do anything.  That's none of your business.

I completely agree that if the bride and groom don't want children there then that's their choice. But you've repeatedly gone on about how babies ruin weddings almost too the point that it appears you feel they shouldn't be invited period (regardless of what b&g chose). I'm just saying anyone has the potential to ruin a wedding and the guest list isn't anyone's business but the bride and groom.

casey8784

Many times it doesn't even have to do with the bride and groom not wanting the kids there. I would LOVE to have all the kids in our families come to the wedding, but if they were all invited, there would be over 35 kids under the age of 18, and our venue/budget simply cannot accommodate that. (We both come from huge families and we're the on the younger end of the cousins, so all but 2 of our cousins have families of their own.) We decided to only invite our nieces and nephews since they are part of the immediate family.

The hotel that my family is staying at, however, has a babysitting service that we will be using in case other family members or friends can't/decided not to leave their kids at home. My fiance and I will be paying for the service, as well as food, movies, and games in the hospitality suite, so hopefully it will be like a slumber party for the kids. Also, if the parents want to check on the kids, since the reception is in the hotel, they can just run upstairs for a few minutes to make sure all is well.

Obviously some people aren't happy with this situation, but as the cliche goes, you can't please everyone. If they decide that coming to the wedding is important to them, then they'll make it work somehow. 

Jen4948

acove2006 said:

Jen4948 said:

acove2006 said:

@jen4948 I don't know why you are so against babies and feel they're the ones that will ruin a wedding. What about the old man who farts so bad you need a gas mask? What about the women with allergies who sneezes every 5 seconds? The pair of 13 year old girls who sit and whisper throughout the whole ceremony? Anyone can "ruin" a wedding (I say "ruin" because I don't believe that type of stuff ruins anything). As a guest you just have to hope the other guests have enough common sense to remove themselves when necessary and to be courteous. So yes, some parents, and other guests, aren't that smart or nice, but most are IMO. If you're so worried about your experience being ruined I wonder why you'd go at all.

The issue is that if the bride and groom didn't want to invite any children, regardless of how old they are, then that's their right.  Regardless of whose children they are, how old they are, how well-behaved they are, and if there's anyone else to take care of them.

If you read the whole thread, many others also take this position. 

So stop trying to make this "my issue" or wonder why I do anything.  That's none of your business.

I completely agree that if the bride and groom don't want children there then that's their choice. But you've repeatedly gone on about how babies ruin weddings almost too the point that it appears you feel they shouldn't be invited period (regardless of what b&g chose). I'm just saying anyone has the potential to ruin a wedding and the guest list isn't anyone's business but the bride and groom.

I haven't said that, only that when they are not attended to they have the potential to do so, and that's why often they are not invited.  If the bride and groom wish them to be there, fine-as long as they are properly attended to.  But if they don't, it's up to the parents to make other arrangements for them if they want to attend the wedding.