One of my friends got engaged about 6 months before me, but due to some potential delays to her wedding, she didn’t let anyone know the date right away. When I got engaged in June, we booked right away, since you must book summer weddings in big cities (DC for us) a year out, or you are out of luck with your top venue picks. When she finally gave the date, it was the same one as ours. Luckily we called the venue and the couple that originally booked two weeks earlier cancelled. Since that was the last date available until October, we grabbed it. I leave the military in September and will begin a new job starting out with no leave, so a Fall wedding is not really feasible.
My friend totally understood, as I explained the situation, and was just happy that we didn’t have a dueling wedding situation. My friend has sisters and several close female cousins that will be serving as her bridesmaids. However, I do not have sisters nor close female cousins. As such, I asked my four closest friends, including this one, to be my bridesmaids. She was honored I asked, and said that it wasn’t a problem at all.
Now here is my dilemma. I am so happy she accepted, but I don’t want to overburden her with my plans when she is making her own. For example, I just started looking at bridesmaid dresses (still 10 months away from the wedding), is it okay to start asking her opinion? I have no idea if she’s even thought about it for her maids. Fortunately, I have a super helpful MOH and one in-town bridesmaid that I’ve been able to bounce ideas off of. However, I don’t want my other friend to feel left out. What is the right balance for drawing the line between exclusion and being considerate of her day?