What To Do!! Bridesmaid Jewelry!

sdove13

I am having such a hard time deciding on what my brides maid jewelry should be! And how much I should spend!!

I am planning a peach and white color scheme wedding on a beach, and I really don't know what to have all my bridesmaid wear as jewelry. They will be wearing the most beautiful peach color dresses I was thinking of each getting them a necklace, bracelet and earrings set. But where my dilemma comes in is that I want it to be pearls, since it will the most ravishing with their color dresses! And I know how pricey pearls can be so I was wondering if maybe I can get away with buying a not as expensive set since I am going to have 10 bridesmaids. I was searching EVERYWHERE to find a set that is not to expensive and still looks very elegant. I came across this pearl earring, necklace and bracelet set . Do you thing I can get by with just buying these for my bridesmaid because I would really like to spend the majority of my money on making the wedding look as peachy and magical as possible!:)  

P.S I think that this will be a cute little gift to my bridesmaid as well to have and wear whenever they like after the wedding! 

itzMS

sdove13 said:

I am having such a hard time deciding on what my brides maid jewelry should be! And how much I should spend!!

I am planning a peach and white color scheme wedding on a beach, and I really don't know what to have all my bridesmaid wear as jewelry. They will be wearing the most beautiful peach color dresses I was thinking of each getting them a necklace, bracelet and earrings set. But where my dilemma comes in is that I want it to be pearls, since it will the most ravishing with their color dresses! And I know how pricey pearls can be so I was wondering if maybe I can get away with buying a not as expensive set since I am going to have 10 bridesmaids. I was searching EVERYWHERE to find a set that is not to expensive and still looks very elegant. I came across this pearl earring, necklace and bracelet set . Do you thing I can get by with just buying these for my bridesmaid because I would really like to spend the majority of my money on making the wedding look as peachy and magical as possible!:)  

P.S I think that this will be a cute little gift to my bridesmaid as well to have and wear whenever they like after the wedding! 

You do know that buying bridesmaids jewelry is not required, and it doesn't count as a "gift" if it's part of the costume they have to wear for your wedding, right?

Why can't you just let them wear whatever jewelry they like?

 

KeptInStitches

Let them wear whatever jewelry they want. Problem solved.

As far as gifts are concerned, shop for them like it's their birthdays. You wouldn't get a set of pearls for the BM who's a sports nut for her birthday, would you? Not saying it's a bad gift, just that it's not right for her.

sdove13

You do know that I am asking whether or not I should BUY them this as a gift not whether or not YOU would. Its my WEDDING so there gonna wear what I want, sorry if your bridesmaid are as good as mine and are actually excited about my wedding. So if you would like to answer yes I should or No I dont like it then I'll happily take your opinion into consideration, THANKS.

Viczaesar

Jewelry to wear in your wedding doesn't count as a gift to them, it's part of the uniform for your vision of how you want your wedding to look.  Let them wear what they like and buy them individual gifts that have everything to do with their personalities and personal tastes and nothing to do with your wedding.

sdove13

I want them to wear the Jewelry I want them to! so no the problem is not solved! Pearls would go best with their dresses and that what I want. Im not trying to shop for their birthdays

Maggie0829

Ditto itzMS

If you want them all to have matching jewelry then buy away.  But you cannot count that as your BM gift because you are requiring them to wear it on your wedding day.  Thus that "gift" becomes more for you and your pretty wedding day then it does for them.  Also, do all 10 BM like pearls and wear pearl jewelry on the regular?

BM gifts should be tailored to each BM.  Like for instance if one BM is a wine snob you could get her some nice goblets and a really good bottle of wine.  If another BM is a book nerd you could get her a Barnes and Noble gift card, a cute bookmark and/or a nice book set of their favorite series or even a signed copy of their favorite book.  Basically you should shop for each of your BMs like it is their birthday or Christmas.

sdove13

I understand that they should be tailored to each BM but I'm not really concerned to much about their gift and neither or they. But I would just really like to know if these pearl look as inexpensive as they cost. I personally think they look great but I just wanted other opinions cause I DO NOT want to have a tacky wedding 

southernbelle0915

sdove13 said:

You do know that I am asking whether or not I should BUY them this as a gift not whether or not YOU would. Its my WEDDING so there gonna wear what I want, sorry if your bridesmaid are as good as mine and are actually excited about my wedding. So if you would like to answer yes I should or No I dont like it then I'll happily take your opinion into consideration, THANKS.

Ok OP.... When I read your initial post, I was all "yay for pearls at a beach wedding! That's a nice set - very sweet of you to offer this to your girls." But after reading THIS post, I'm all "Whoa - down there crazy bridezilla." It's really rude of you to talk to people like that - and no, your wedding is not an excuse to insult other people and act entitled. Sorry - no tolerance for that. I'm sure @itzMS's bridesmaids were just as excited about her wedding as yours are about your wedding. No need to get competitive. 

It's true that if you buy them something because it serves the purpose YOU want (e.g. you're requiring them to wear this) it doesn't count as their BM gift. She's only telling you that because there are BMs that come on here all. the. time. who say stuff like "I told the bride I liked it and I wore it because it was her wedding, but I don't understand how she thinks something 'required' is a gift?" Moral? If there's something they don't like, they're not going to tell you (probably because they know you'd freak the fuck out like you did here). Internet strangers have no problem offering honest solutions. If you want everyone to validate your ideas, go ask your BMs. You came here for honest feedback and you got it. 

Oh and btw, you can save $40 per set buying these on Amazon:  http://www.amazon.com/Sterling-Freshwater-Cultured-Necklace-Bracelet/dp/B001039412/ref=lp_3898891_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1376509377&sr=1-3

Now with all the money you'll save, please go buy your BMs personalized gifts for spending their time and money on your wedding.

NYCMercedes

Buy the Amazon ones. That is not their gift, you know. It is part of the costume you're requiring. You need to buy them a gift.

astimmel

The BMs only have to buy the dress. Anything else you want, you have to pay for, which includes jewelry. So it's good that you're going to pay for it, but please please please don't make that their actual gifts.

By buying them something to wear in your wedding, you aren't saying "thank you for being my friend. Thank you for being part of my day. I appreciate all of the time and money you've put into this. You are my friend and I'm honored that you'll be standing up there with me."

It's saying "I got you this jewelry so that you'll look the way I want you to for my wedding. But you can also wear it for other stuff." Trust me. I was on the receiving end of the jewelry and it was kind of a slap in the face.

In order to truly and properly thank them for being your BMs, for being your friends, for their commitment, you need to recognize each one of them individually. You need to get them a gift with the same thought and care that you would when shopping for their individual birthdays.

southernbelle0915

sdove13 said:

I want them to wear the Jewelry I want them to! so no the problem is not solved! Pearls would go best with their dresses and that what I want. Im not trying to shop for their birthdays

sdove13 said:

I understand that they should be tailored to each BM but I'm not really concerned to much about their gift and neither or they. But I would just really like to know if these pearl look as inexpensive as they cost. I personally think they look great but I just wanted other opinions cause I DO NOT want to have a tacky wedding 

You know what's tacky? How entitled and bridezilla you're acting. So unless you turn that around - you're on the autobahn to a tacky wedding. 

Maggie0829

sdove13 said:

You do know that I am asking whether or not I should BUY them this as a gift not whether or not YOU would. Its my WEDDING so there gonna wear what I want, sorry if your bridesmaid are as good as mine and are actually excited about my wedding. So if you would like to answer yes I should or No I dont like it then I'll happily take your opinion into consideration, THANKS.

I want them to wear the Jewelry I want them to! so no the problem is not solved! Pearls would go best with their dresses and that what I want. I'm not trying to shop for their birthdays

I understand that they should be tailored to each BM but I'm not really concerned to much about their gift and neither or they. But I would just really like to know if these pearl look as inexpensive as they cost. I personally think they look great but I just wanted other opinions cause I DO NOT want to have a tacky wedding 

Well aren't you a peach.  So nice of you to really care what kind of "gift" you are giving your nearest and dearest.  You know what my BMs were very happy for me and were excited for my wedding even without being forced to wear jewelry that they may or may not like.

I think you need to take a step off the bridezilla train and realize that not one of your guests will give a flying fuck what type of jewelry your BMs are wearing.  And honestly, the jewelry won't even show up in the pictures.

But go ahead, don't give a rats ass about your friends or that you know what the right thing to do is.  God forbid your wedding gets tacky because all your BMs don't look like clones.

sdove13

Is it completely necessary to buy them a gift, I mean I would be completely happy with a Pearl Set of Jewelry. I am planning to fly them all the Florida for a Bridesmaid Bonding Trip since some of them don't know each other. And money isn't an issue because my husband to be is well off. But I'm just very conscious to spending. 

On regards to the Amazon pair I feel like they look so cheap!

I came across this pair of Cultured Pearl Set , Any opinions if this would look more "elegant" and "beachy" compared to the other one??

itzMS

Matching jewelry does not make the wedding, that's for damn sure.

Maggie0829

How about instead of spending money on a bonding trip (they all do not have to be besties or even get to know one another) you use that money to buy them each a nice gift that does not have to be used in your wedding.  Just because you would like a pearl jewelry set does not mean everyone does.

And I don't know about the rest of you but I am getting a whiff of a troll.

southernbelle0915

sdove13 said:

Is it completely necessary to buy them a gift, I mean I would be completely happy with a Pearl Set of Jewelry. I am planning to fly them all the Florida for a Bridesmaid Bonding Trip since some of them don't know each other. And money isn't an issue because my husband to be is well off. But I'm just very conscious to spending. 

On regards to the Amazon pair I feel like they look so cheap!

I came across this pair of Cultured Pearl Set , Any opinions if this would look more "elegant" and "beachy" compared to the other one??

I call shenanigans on the bolded. If money isn't an issue, you'd buy a nice set of pearls AND a thank you gift. 

Is the Bridesmaid Bonding Trip in "the Florida" required?

astimmel

sdove13 said:

Is it completely necessary to buy them a gift, I mean I would be completely happy with a Pearl Set of Jewelry. I am planning to fly them all the Florida for a Bridesmaid Bonding Trip since some of them don't know each other. And money isn't an issue because my husband to be is well off. But I'm just very conscious to spending. 

On regards to the Amazon pair I feel like they look so cheap!

I came across this pair of Cultured Pearl Set , Any opinions if this would look more "elegant" and "beachy" compared to the other one??

OP, see my post above, but just to reiterate:  These girls are your friends, and they are putting a lot of time/money/energy into being your bridesmaids (it's more than you might think). You need to thank them.  The Florida trip isn't a gift to them. If it's in any way related to your wedding, it isn't a gift for them. Why don't you cancel the Florida trip and put that money towards their gifts?

sdove13

Maggie0829

I think you need to take a step off the bridezilla train and realize that not one of your guests will give a flying fuck what type of jewelry your BMs are wearing.  And honestly, the jewelry won't even show up in the pictures

But go ahead, don't give a rats ass about your friends or that you know what the right thing to do is.  God forbid your wedding gets tacky because all your BMs don't look like clones.

Seems to me that your guests probably dont want to show up to your wedding and that a Elephant's Pit in a Circus would probably be less Tacky then your Wedding. My BM are my closetest friends, they wont care what they recieve they will happy EITHER way. Like a TRUE FRIEND should  be. So sorry if you need to find better ones.

sdove13

Im sorry for being a Brideszilla but no the florida trip isnt a necessity, maybe It would be a good idea to spend that on personal gifts then

southernbelle0915

sdove13 said:

Maggie0829

I think you need to take a step off the bridezilla train and realize that not one of your guests will give a flying fuck what type of jewelry your BMs are wearing.  And honestly, the jewelry won't even show up in the pictures

But go ahead, don't give a rats ass about your friends or that you know what the right thing to do is.  God forbid your wedding gets tacky because all your BMs don't look like clones.

Seems to me that your guests probably dont want to show up to your wedding can't you tell from Maggie's sig pic that's she's married? and that a Elephant's Pit in a Circus would probably be less Tacky then your Wedding You, my little troll friend, have just earned yourself a play date. My BM are my closetest friends, they wont care what they recieve they will happy EITHER way. Like a TRUE FRIEND should  be. So sorry if you need to find better ones.

OOOO!!!! OP, if money isn't an issue, I like these:

http://www.purepearls.com/akoya-3-piece-pearl-set-18-7-5-7-0-7-5-mm-white.html

They're on sale. If you're a TRUE FRIEND, you'll buy these for your BMs. 

astimmel

sdove13 said:

Maggie0829

I think you need to take a step off the bridezilla train and realize that not one of your guests will give a flying fuck what type of jewelry your BMs are wearing.  And honestly, the jewelry won't even show up in the pictures

But go ahead, don't give a rats ass about your friends or that you know what the right thing to do is.  God forbid your wedding gets tacky because all your BMs don't look like clones.

Seems to me that your guests probably dont want to show up to your wedding and that a Elephant's Pit in a Circus would probably be less Tacky then your Wedding. My BM are my closetest friends, they wont care what they recieve they will happy EITHER way. Like a TRUE FRIEND should  be. So sorry if you need to find better ones.

Ok, you've officially brought out my bitch. You are 100% a bridezilla, you are the definition of selfish, and it's disgusting. It's really sickening that people like you actually exist.

But by all means, come back a few weeks after your wedding and let us know how many of your BMs are still talking to you.

sdove13

southernbelle0915 Those are very gorgeous but for 10 bridesmaids?? no. Money inst an issue but to wear I spend it, it is. I rather spend a majority of it on a beautiful wedding. I'm not saying mines gonna be a million dollar wedding cause I'm so rich, I'm just very Conscious as to how I spend it

sdove13

EXCUSE ME? All of my Bridesmaids will talk to me, thank you. 

Maggie0829

sdove13 said:

Maggie0829

I think you need to take a step off the bridezilla train and realize that not one of your guests will give a flying fuck what type of jewelry your BMs are wearing.  And honestly, the jewelry won't even show up in the pictures

But go ahead, don't give a rats ass about your friends or that you know what the right thing to do is.  God forbid your wedding gets tacky because all your BMs don't look like clones.

Seems to me that your guests probably dont want to show up to your wedding and that a Elephant's Pit in a Circus would probably be less Tacky then your Wedding. My BM are my closetest friends, they wont care what they recieve they will happy EITHER way. Like a TRUE FRIEND should  be. So sorry if you need to find better ones.

Funny enough I did have an elephants pit at my wedding and it was fucking tackilicious!!  Just like I had wanted.

Well if your friends will be happy no matter what you give them then why not just give them jewelry made from dried up dog shit so that they can be just as shitty as you.

Maggie0829

NYCMercedes

@knotporscha

sdove13

A girl cant ask for an opinion these days without getting caddy responses. 

Please can someone answer that will not call me a "troll" Thanks. 

For those that did thank you so much and I take your opinion seriously!

astimmel

sdove13 said:

A girl cant ask for an opinion these days without getting caddy responses. 

Please can someone answer that will not call me a "troll" Thanks. 

For those that did thank you so much and I take your opinion seriously!

Caddies usually have pretty good advice though. They are trained to know the game, after all.

But seriously? See the first answer I wrote before your attitude turned me into a bitch.

OliveOilsMom

as soon as I read the word "the most ravishing" in regards to the color of pearls against their peach dresses, I though - who talks like that?  Oh yeah, trolls do!

OP - if you truly are looking for help let me tell you - my SIL gave me a set of earrings and a necklace for my "gift"  I was supposed to wear it at her wedding.  This was after I told her I don't wear jewelry except for when I'm in a wedding.  To her face, I said they were lovely.  In my head I thought how inconsiderate to purchase me jewlery she KNOWS I will never wear again.  I donated that jewelry, along with the dress to charity a week later. So even if you think your friends will love the pearls, they will probably only love them to your face.  Best BM gift I ever got? A small Coach bag that I didn't need to use the next day at the wedding (though I did anyway)!

Maggie0829

Well my first response to you wasn't catty at all.  It was actually filled with good advice but you were the one that went ape shit and saying that you don't give a shit what you are supposed to do that this is YOUR wedding and you want all your girls to wear the same exact shit.

When you start throwing attitude out there expect to get a ton of it back.