I want to change my name after I get married. I'm not really big on being hyphenated, I'm not against it, it's just not for me. My problem stems from the fact that I have a 4 year old from a previous relationship. She has my last name and knows her full name. I'm unsure how to go about the questions that she will have about changing my last name and whether I should change hers. Has anyone has this dilemma before? Would it be better for her if I kept the same last name until she is old enough to understand or just go for it now? Her father is MIA so he doesn't have a say in whether her name changes.