My fiances mother is an awesome person! I love her to death and I can't wait for her to be a part of my family also.
The issue is that she asked if she could pay for the food at the wedding after my mother had already offered to take on that part.
His mother has a history of not using money wisely at all. Especially since my fiance has bailed her out of financial problems she has and she can't even afford her phone bill. She was diagnosed with diabetes a few years ago and it's heartbreaking because she still continues to smoke and do things that have a bad impact on her health. She doesn't work and her husband runs a small business which means that she would use her husbands money to pay for the food at the wedding.
If she can barely afford her own bills and expenses, how do I explain to her that I don't feel comfortable with her paying for the food?
My fiance thinks we should let his mother pay for it because he thinks it's her way of wanting to be part of the wedding, but I think there's less expensive ways she can be a part of it.
I even invited her to get pampered with me and to go to a bridal show and she asked my fiance if we could pay for her train ticket to come out here and see us because she doesn't want to drive even though she's only 3 hours away. If she can't afford a train ticket, how can she afford food for a wedding?
I feel like I'm complaining too much but I am really trying to work through this problem somehow.