My fiance and I are getting married on 16 May 2014 and we were planning to have a large wedding to accommodate our 8 families (all parents divorced and remarried) which was going to result in over 200 people invited. We asked our parents to keep it around 150 people (50 for my family, 50 for his and 50 of our friends), but we met a lot of resistance from his mother on this number claiming it was too small. We both agreed we want something a little more intimate and special, so we've decided to cancel our original plans and go with a smaller and still local venue and only our immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents) and closest friends (basically only the bridal party), so less than 40 people.
My parents are fine with the change of plans and want us to do what is going to make us happy, but my fiance still hasn't told his mom about our change of heart. I've already sent our request to cancel the orignal venue so there's no turning back now. I guess I'm just terrified to see how she is going to react, I know she won't get mad at him for the change in plans, but I feel like I'm going to get her full wrath for the change of plans.
Does anyone have any suggestions for handling her reaction once she finds out? My parents are going to pay for the wedding, so from a financial standpoint that's covered and she won't be asked for money.
Are we crazy for changing our plans so drastically?