I am on the verge of being a Bridezilla and I need to be talked down off the ledge.
My BM (2 sisters and 2 friends) are planning a "surprise" shower/bachelorette weekend for me in Philadelphia area (172 miles from where I live now). But I know about it because of my sisters' hints. That weekend also coincides with my dad's 60th birthday. So I believe they are trying to get me to PA under the guise of a party for him. So I will need to go home another weekend as well for his birthday (which is fine). I also have an appointment to get my hair done from my tried and true hairstylist on October 12. I'm stressed for the reasons listed below - so if we don't do some type of combining of parties with weekends I get my hair done or shower/bachelorette.
Problem is, I will be
driving over 1000 miles on my newly LEASED vehicle
three weekends out of the five before my wedding. Not only that - but this is the
busiest time of year for me at work - in which I may be expected to come in on weekends and I also have to cover my hours for when I'm out of the office for three weeks for our HM (end of government FY). I'm feeling sick to my stomach over this for so many reasons.
I'm grateful they are doing ALL of this - and I understand how they want this to be a surprise for me so I'm trying my hardest not to blow up. But now I'm worried about mileage on my car, not getting work done, displeasing my family, being gone so many weekends before the wedding, EXPENSES of traveling on top of the wedding! PS I've been told by one of my sister's that I should put my non-wedding life on hold right now.
FI is getting frustrated with them because he knows how I operate with my family and I will cave at the last minute.
PLEASE HELP!!!
ALSO - I don't think they come on the Knot - but if I get the hunch that they are - I may have to delete this because it is way too specific for them to NOT know its me.