Hi all,new here, and my wedding is stressing me out so badly, but the most stress is coming from my mom. There have been a number of things all along, but two things have really got on my last nerve recently.
The first is, my dad passed away just a few months after my Fi and I got engaged. We have a memorial candle that I plan to have at the ceremony. I had planned to light it, by myself, before the ceremony to have some "private time" with dad. Now my mom wants the photographer to take a picture of this. I have been very insistent that I want it to be a private moment, and I feel like my mom wanting pictures of it is being disrespectful to me.
Second, the hall has a 200-plate minimum. We will be close, if we don't actually reach 200. Mom has been really rude about how she has to pay for more people than will be there. To the point of saying, "I'm gonna ask people in off the street" to fill any empty places. There is a friend of my brother's mom wants to invite, who's husband has said some very rude and off-color things both tome and my Fi. We both feel very uncomfortable having the husband there, but I don't see any way of just inviting the wife. My mom's reasoning was that it would be 2 more people to fill places.
Yes, my mother is paying, so yes,she should have some say, but where do I draw the line? Am I being oversensitive about these things? Or is my mom out of line?