Interested in what people think about this situation. My son is getting married after a very short engagement. My husband and I were not consulted about the date of the wedding, the ceremony venue, the reception venue, the shower, the invitations, nor anything else pertaining to this wedding. We then get a call from MOB asking us how we would like to help with the wedding and explaining how expensive everything is. The subtext was clear - we want you to help pay for this wedding. My feeling is that if my financial assistance was to be required I should have been involved in all financial decisions from the beginning and not just presented a bill (so to speak). There are a lot of hard feelings about his wedding, including being told that we couldn't do the rehearsal dinner we had planned for the couple (after a non-refundable deposit had been placed on a venue) because they didn't want it to take away from the wedding, scheduled the next day. Am I the crazy one here?